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FamilyKB
It appears FamilyKB has few readers; it sure does not have many
posters, but it munges the content so much that most readers could assume the posters are FamilyKB members. However, if you compare FamilyKB "content" to the actual sources, you can see the posters have nothing whatever to do with FamilyKB. Even worse, its "Parenting" forum aggregates content from misc.kids and *other* sources. I think its business model is to make FamilyKB *appear* to have a lively user community, so maybe it will attract users and can be sold for millions of dollars. The business model looks to be a total flop. I have read that Google paid 400 million for eGroups, which became part of Google Groups. Google Groups started off as just another interface to Usenet, but now it looks more and more like Yahoo. Pologirl [This article originates in misc.kids; if you are reading it elsewhere, you are reading *stolen* content.] |
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Need Help With 8 Year Old Son
"Asanchez1977" u40164@uwe wrote in message news:7d46a0a9da1d1@uwe... I have an eight year old son who just doesn't help out around the house, continues to fight with his brothers and sisters, pouts, talks back and just will not settle down. I am currently single with five children, and I find myself losing my patience with him more and more every day. Today he was asked to clean up the kitchen area with his sister. He started screwing around like he always does and fell and hurt himself. He screamed and cried, only to find that he wasn't really hurt at all. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf so many times, but he just doesn't listen. When I called him back downstairs and told him to finish the kitchen by himself he started screaming saying that his sister was a liar that she always lied. I asked him to stop...he continued. I told him to stop...he continued to scream and cry. I blew up, brought him into the bathroom and put a bar of soap in his mouth. He continued to scream and cry and kick. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried everything to make him happy, given him chances upon chances. I just don't know what he needs from me. I ask him what can I do to help him...he says he wants daddy back. That isn't going to happen. Can anyone give me some advice? I am at my wits end and I just don't know if I can continue taking care of him. What kind of mother does that make me? There are a host of positive discipline books out there. Get some. Borrow some. Start with http://www.amazon.com/Discipline-Lif...89882&sr= 8-1 Stuffing soap in his mouth is never going to work. You need a whole new lingo/set of skills than ask, tell, yell, punish. This book is a good place to start. Good luck. |
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FamilyKB
On Dec 29, 9:47*am, Pologirl wrote:
I have read that Google paid 400 million for eGroups, which became part of Google Groups. Google Groups started off as just another interface to Usenet, but now it looks more and more like Yahoo. Pologirl [This article originates in misc.kids; *if you are reading it elsewhere, you are reading *stolen* content.] But, eGroups became Yahoo groups, not Google Groups. Google Groups does leave quite a bit to be desired and I know there are much better newsreaders now, but in some ways I find it an improvement over the old text based newsreaders. --Betsy |
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Need Help With 8 Year Old Son
On Dec 27, 9:50 am, Sarah Vaughan wrote:
Asanchez1977 wrote: I have an eight year old son who just doesn't help out around the house, continues to fight with his brothers and sisters, pouts, talks back and just will not settle down. I am currently single with five children, and I find myself losing my patience with him more and more every day. [snip description of difficult situation from OP, and some very good advice from Sarah] Can anyone give me some advice? I am at my wits end and I just don't know if I can continue taking care of him. What kind of mother does that make me? A totally normal one. We all feel overwhelmed at times, and most of us don't have anything like as tough a row to hoe as you have. [snip for brevirty] And one more thought - how much time are you getting for yourself? Is there anyone who can give you a break from it all? Sometimes that can make all the difference in your ability to keep going and stay patient. YES! It's critical to find help, however you can. With part of your (and the kids') emotional connections gone, you have to build some kind of asupport network, and fast. If you don't have family nearby who can help, look to a congregation, if you have one, or other moms in the neighborhood, and start connecting. Just a sympathetic ear, or an offer to take one of your other kids (maybe the sister who's irking the brother?) for a few hours, can be a lifesaver. Someone who can watch the others if you need to take one to the hospital. You will return the favors as you're able--and you *will* be able, maybe sooner than you know. Friends often have that effect on people! And please remember that while this change in your household has upset your life, it's absolutely devastated your son's. My mom used to say that the kids who are the most difficult are the ones who need our love most. Looking at your son as someone small, who's hurting and feels powerless, instead of as someone who's doing his best to make your life even more difficult -- that will make it easier to be the mom you want to be. Best wishes. Lori G. |
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Need Help With 8 Year Old Son
Asanchez1977 wrote:
I have an eight year old son who just doesn't help out around the house, continues to fight with his brothers and sisters, pouts, talks back and just will not settle down. I am currently single with five children, and I find myself losing my patience with him more and more every day. Today he was asked to clean up the kitchen area with his sister. He started screwing around like he always does and fell and hurt himself. He screamed and cried, only to find that he wasn't really hurt at all. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf so many times, but he just doesn't listen. When I called him back downstairs and told him to finish the kitchen by himself he started screaming saying that his sister was a liar that she always lied. I asked him to stop...he continued. I told him to stop...he continued to scream and cry. I blew up, brought him into the bathroom and put a bar of soap in his mouth. He continued to scream and cry and kick. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried everything to make him happy, given him chances upon chances. I just don't know what he needs from me. I ask him what can I do to help him...he says he wants daddy back. That isn't going to happen. Can anyone give me some advice? I am at my wits end and I just don't know if I can continue taking care of him. What kind of mother does that make me? do what my dad did.... tear that butt up with a belt...... thats whats wrong with America today, parents are not using the tried and true methods of the past. |
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Need Help With 8 Year Old Son
On Jan 1, 12:46 pm, "Mark" wrote:
do what my dad did.... tear that butt up with a belt...... thats whats wrong with America today, parents are not using the tried and true methods of the past. I am not against all corporal punishment, but that is too harsh, and in most (all?) states of the U.S., I think it's illegal. |
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Need Help With 8 Year Old Son
Beliavsky wrote:
On Jan 1, 12:46 pm, "Mark" wrote: do what my dad did.... tear that butt up with a belt...... thats whats wrong with America today, parents are not using the tried and true methods of the past. I am not against all corporal punishment, but that is too harsh, and in most (all?) states of the U.S., I think it's illegal. I don't know of any state where corporal punishment by parents is illegal. Of course, child abuse is illegal in every state. However, I think the words, "Go to your room for ten minutes," when followed by appropriate action (picking the child up, putting him on his bed, and closing the door, if necessary) when done consistently, will provide better results and not teach the child that it is ok to hit. Jeff |
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