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I miss being pregnant...
I had a troublesome pregnancy due to my 'advanced maternal age' of 41
& spent the last several months of my pregnancy on full bedrest. In the end, I delivered a perfectly healthy baby boy 3 1/2 months ago. Here is the weird part... Even with the difficulites of my pregnancy, I miss being pregnant so much that I cried for the first few weeks post partum. I still think back at how calm and happy I was when I was pregnant & I want to 'go back' to that time again. During those last months of bedrest, it was the first time in my entire life that every moment of the day was spent literally resting, relaxing and lounging. For the first time I had no worries, no housecleaning, cooking etc. Nothing was expected of me except to grow a healthy baby. I read all the books I never had time for, I watched all the TV shows that my heart desired, I knitted clothes for baby and I answered the phone only when I felt like talking. I was waited on hand and foot & everyone was careful not to upset or stress me out. I never felt so relaxed, happy and calm in my life. Then the baby came and Oh My GOD, reality hit so hard that it threw me for a loop. I'm back to my Type A self again, short tempered, short of sleep, impatient, anxious, bitchy, blood pressure soaring after being perfect for 9 months. Now that I have something to compare to - I realize the 'real' me needs to change. I love my baby so much and I want to be the person I was during pregnancy. I tried drugs (Paxil) but that didnt' do anything to calm me. One doctor suggested I may be lacking progesterone which tends to be calming, while another suggests cognitive therapy. Anyone care to throw in there 2 cents? Bree |
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I miss being pregnant...
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I had a troublesome pregnancy due to my 'advanced maternal age' of 41 & spent the last several months of my pregnancy on full bedrest. In the end, I delivered a perfectly healthy baby boy 3 1/2 months ago. Here is the weird part... Even with the difficulites of my pregnancy, I miss being pregnant so much that I cried for the first few weeks post partum. I still think back at how calm and happy I was when I was pregnant & I want to 'go back' to that time again. During those last months of bedrest, it was the first time in my entire life that every moment of the day was spent literally resting, relaxing and lounging. For the first time I had no worries, no housecleaning, cooking etc. Nothing was expected of me except to grow a healthy baby. I read all the books I never had time for, I watched all the TV shows that my heart desired, I knitted clothes for baby and I answered the phone only when I felt like talking. I was waited on hand and foot & everyone was careful not to upset or stress me out. I never felt so relaxed, happy and calm in my life. Then the baby came and Oh My GOD, reality hit so hard that it threw me for a loop. I'm back to my Type A self again, short tempered, short of sleep, impatient, anxious, bitchy, blood pressure soaring after being perfect for 9 months. Now that I have something to compare to - I realize the 'real' me needs to change. I love my baby so much and I want to be the person I was during pregnancy. I tried drugs (Paxil) but that didnt' do anything to calm me. One doctor suggested I may be lacking progesterone which tends to be calming, while another suggests cognitive therapy. Anyone care to throw in there 2 cents? Bree No but it does sound like I would feel the same way -- it sounds like you had the first real vacation of your life and what a long one! And then you got thrown back into the fire. Try the progesterone? You can get natural progesterone in a cream. I saw a doctor once who said it's like valium. I think he was overdramatizing. -- Dagny EDD 10/6/03 |
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I miss being pregnant...
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I had a troublesome pregnancy due to my 'advanced maternal age' of 41 & spent the last several months of my pregnancy on full bedrest. In the end, I delivered a perfectly healthy baby boy 3 1/2 months ago. Here is the weird part... Even with the difficulites of my pregnancy, I miss being pregnant so much that I cried for the first few weeks post partum. I still think back at how calm and happy I was when I was pregnant & I want to 'go back' to that time again. During those last months of bedrest, it was the first time in my entire life that every moment of the day was spent literally resting, relaxing and lounging. For the first time I had no worries, no housecleaning, cooking etc. Nothing was expected of me except to grow a healthy baby. I read all the books I never had time for, I watched all the TV shows that my heart desired, I knitted clothes for baby and I answered the phone only when I felt like talking. I was waited on hand and foot & everyone was careful not to upset or stress me out. I never felt so relaxed, happy and calm in my life. Then the baby came and Oh My GOD, reality hit so hard that it threw me for a loop. I'm back to my Type A self again, short tempered, short of sleep, impatient, anxious, bitchy, blood pressure soaring after being perfect for 9 months. Now that I have something to compare to - I realize the 'real' me needs to change. I love my baby so much and I want to be the person I was during pregnancy. I tried drugs (Paxil) but that didnt' do anything to calm me. One doctor suggested I may be lacking progesterone which tends to be calming, while another suggests cognitive therapy. Anyone care to throw in there 2 cents? Bree A baby is way easier to care for when it's still inside IMO. No wonder you want to go back to that. You weren't getting up a gazillion times in the night, no crying baby, no diapers, etc...A lot of women even swear they still feel the baby moving inside after it's born. Pregnancy is a weird thing. Maybe you need something different from Paxil (I have no idea what but trying other drugs might help). Honestly it sounds pretty normal to me, if that helps. -- Sophie - TTC #4 |
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I miss being pregnant...
wrote in message ... [] I love my baby so much and I want to be the person I was during pregnancy. I tried drugs (Paxil) but that didnt' do anything to calm me. One doctor suggested I may be lacking progesterone which tends to be calming, while another suggests cognitive therapy. Anyone care to throw in there 2 cents? If your baby is not sleeping through the night (and maybe even if he is) you are probably suffering from sleep deprivation. Most people in developed countries do not get enough sleep. That can have a profound impact on your mood. Also, if you have a typical diet, you are eating far more sugar and other high-glycemic carbohydrates than are good for you. This affects your mood, your energy level, your horomones and just about everything to do with your general health. People who change their sleep patterns and diet often experience dramatic changes without the use of drugs. This would be the first option that I would explore before trying any medications. Jayne |
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I miss being pregnant...
Oops I changed the reply header by accident...
Sounds like ppd to me and another medication will probably make all the difference. I had depression for years (not pg related however) and I tried about 6 different meds before I found one that did the trick for me. You might also try to get a referrral to a psychiatrist who specializes in Post Partum Depression. Anf fwiw, we all like to be pampered. It's not surprising that you miss that and it's probably the attention you are missing rather than actually being pg.The first few months of motherhood are a difficult time for Type A's because it's such a time of control-lessness (if thats a word!) and after being in the spotlight for so many months, it's probably quite an adjustment to feel usurped by this tiny baby who requires ALL OF YOU! Many women go through this but there is help available - just trying one med is only a start. Paxil does NOTHING for me so you may have to go through quite a selection until you find the right fit. If you're nursing there's a lot of options available so don't let that deter you. Good luck and this time will pass so soon, so try to enjoy it the best you can... wrote in message ... I had a troublesome pregnancy due to my 'advanced maternal age' of 41 & spent the last several months of my pregnancy on full bedrest. In the end, I delivered a perfectly healthy baby boy 3 1/2 months ago. Here is the weird part... Even with the difficulites of my pregnancy, I miss being pregnant so much that I cried for the first few weeks post partum. I still think back at how calm and happy I was when I was pregnant & I want to 'go back' to that time again. During those last months of bedrest, it was the first time in my entire life that every moment of the day was spent literally resting, relaxing and lounging. For the first time I had no worries, no housecleaning, cooking etc. Nothing was expected of me except to grow a healthy baby. I read all the books I never had time for, I watched all the TV shows that my heart desired, I knitted clothes for baby and I answered the phone only when I felt like talking. I was waited on hand and foot & everyone was careful not to upset or stress me out. I never felt so relaxed, happy and calm in my life. Then the baby came and Oh My GOD, reality hit so hard that it threw me for a loop. I'm back to my Type A self again, short tempered, short of sleep, impatient, anxious, bitchy, blood pressure soaring after being perfect for 9 months. Now that I have something to compare to - I realize the 'real' me needs to change. I love my baby so much and I want to be the person I was during pregnancy. I tried drugs (Paxil) but that didnt' do anything to calm me. One doctor suggested I may be lacking progesterone which tends to be calming, while another suggests cognitive therapy. Anyone care to throw in there 2 cents? Bree |
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