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baby temper tantrums
My daughter is currently 8.5 months and she throws very serious temper
tantrums. I mean she doesn't want her diaper changed, she doesn't want to take her clothes off, or put her coat on. When ever you try to change something that she is doing she becomes very stiff and arches her entire body back, and begins to scream as if she were extremely hurt, but when you pick her up and stand up she stops automatically. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! |
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baby temper tantrums
On Sun, 18 Dec 2005 22:04:04 -0500, "babuska"
wrote: My daughter is currently 8.5 months and she throws very serious temper tantrums. I mean she doesn't want her diaper changed, she doesn't want to take her clothes off, or put her coat on. When ever you try to change something that she is doing she becomes very stiff and arches her entire body back, and begins to scream as if she were extremely hurt, but when you pick her up and stand up she stops automatically. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! You are probably not doing anything wrong. She's getting active and doesn't want to stop playing to be changed. Some things you can try. First always warn her before you pick her up to change her or do something like put on clothing. Say *we need to change your diaper now* in a fun, pleasant tone of voice. You will be surprised at how much she understands even though she isn't talking much yet. You can also try singing it to some children's tune, like Twinkle, twinkle little star. That may divert her attention long enough to get the deed done. Also for changing, have a special toy that she gets to play with only when she is being changed. If you are at home and have a changing table, try hanging a mirror on the wall near it or even on the ceiling above the table. Singing can be a key to diverting her while you are changing her too. You can sing some song she likes or you can sing\ the words to what you are doing. If she has a strong need to be standing, try changing her diaper while she is standing up (at least for pee). Make a game of getting clothing on and off and do it while she is standing instead of trying to pick her up and put things on her. She will learn to help by putting her arms out soon. You can say or sing *I need your left arm. put it into the armhole, etc.* Good luck. This phase won't last *too* long, hopefully. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Sounds familiar! LOL
I use the distraction technique with 10 month old DD. I have a pile of unique object that I keep near the change table, I hand her one when I change her diaper. It usually distracts her for long enough. Sometimes I dangle them from my mouth. To change her clothes, I often do it in the living room with a baby video on the television. She focuses on the TV, I change her clothes (works well for nail clipping too). If I'm upstairs and don't want to go through the hassle of putting the tv on, I change her clothes on the change table. I find that if I try to change her on the floor, she's too anxious to start crawling; if she's on the change table, then there's no where to go. Changing clothes is a major hassle at our house. My mother thinks it's awful that DD is sometimes still in her PJ's in the afternoon. Well, sometimes I don't feel up to the wrestling match that is required to put her clothes on. Mandy |
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outparenting.com, "babuska" wrote: My daughter is currently 8.5 months and she throws very serious temper tantrums. I mean she doesn't want her diaper changed, she doesn't want to take her clothes off, or put her coat on. When ever you try to change something that she is doing she becomes very stiff and arches her entire body back, and begins to scream as if she were extremely hurt, but when you pick her up and stand up she stops automatically. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! LOL -- you aren't. It's just that they hate being interrupted, having to be still, and having clothes put on and taken off. I used to verbalise with DS1: "Oh, this is terrible! I have to be still! How annoying! My nappy has to come off!" and so on. -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "In Melbourne there is plenty of vigour and eagerness, but there is nothing worth being eager or vigorous about." Francis Adams, The Australians, 1893. |
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Chookie wrote: In article outparenting.com, "babuska" wrote: My daughter is currently 8.5 months and she throws very serious temper tantrums. I mean she doesn't want her diaper changed, she doesn't want to take her clothes off, or put her coat on. When ever you try to change something that she is doing she becomes very stiff and arches her entire body back, and begins to scream as if she were extremely hurt, but when you pick her up and stand up she stops automatically. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! LOL -- you aren't. It's just that they hate being interrupted, having to be still, and having clothes put on and taken off. I used to verbalise with DS1: "Oh, this is terrible! I have to be still! How annoying! My nappy has to come off!" and so on. I changed my kids on the floor at this age: I sat on the floor with the baby between my legs, and used my legs to pin them down (my leg on their shoulders) and got them changed as quickly as I could. (I could never get the hang of changing a diaper while they stood . . .) My object was NOT to make them happy with the event -- that clearly seemed beyond reality-- it was just to get it done as quickly as possible. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Chookie" wrote in message ... In article outparenting.com, "babuska" wrote: My daughter is currently 8.5 months and she throws very serious temper tantrums. I mean she doesn't want her diaper changed, she doesn't want to take her clothes off, or put her coat on. When ever you try to change something that she is doing she becomes very stiff and arches her entire body back, and begins to scream as if she were extremely hurt, but when you pick her up and stand up she stops automatically. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! LOL -- you aren't. It's just that they hate being interrupted, having to be still, and having clothes put on and taken off. I used to verbalise with DS1: "Oh, this is terrible! I have to be still! How annoying! My nappy has to come off!" and so on. One of the signs Alli learned pretty early was "DON'T LIKE"-and it appears a lot in situations like this, which leads to "Yes, I KNOW you don't like having your diaper changed!" I'm still waiting for that "Will assist in dressing" which the baby milestones book said came by a year. Hasn't happened yet. |
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Chookie ) writes:
LOL -- you aren't. It's just that they hate being interrupted, having to be still, and having clothes put on and taken off. I used to verbalise with DS1: "Oh, this is terrible! I have to be still! How annoying! My nappy has to come off!" and so on. Excellent. For one thing, this teaches the child how to express feelings. More important, it builds a connection between parent and child -- shows that the parent understands and is on the child's side. It's also a form of fantasy and entertainment. Little babies may not mind being distracted if another entertainment is immediately offered. |
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"Donna Metler" ) writes:
One of the signs Alli learned pretty early was "DON'T LIKE"-and it appears a lot in situations like this, which leads to "Yes, I KNOW you don't like having your diaper changed!" I think you could make this sound more sympathetic. One way would be to say it before her: "I know you don't like having your diaper changed, but it's time to change it now!" I wonder whether she dislikes all diaper changes or whether there's something about it that could be changed, like letting her stay in the same position or doing it in a steamy room so she doesn't feel cold or something. Maybe you could give her a choice: "Would you like to have your diaper changed on the floor, or on the change table?" Maybe it's the lack of control over her situation that she dislikes, and having some choice would make her feel better about it. I think it would sound more sympathetic if you just said "You don't like getting your diaper changed." rather than focussing on the fact that you already know that, which sounds like a criticism of her for expressing her feeling. |
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"Donna Metler" wrote in
: I'm still waiting for that "Will assist in dressing" which the baby milestones book said came by a year. Hasn't happened yet. don't hold your breath. mine's 5 & what he does can hardly be called "assisting" lee -- war is peace freedom is slavery ignorance is strength 1984-George Orwell |
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