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Who knew...
that they would fight this early?? Don't know if this is a vent or quest
for help! It seems that no matter what one is playing with, the other zooms in from across the room and wants that same toy. No longer are they content playing by themselves, they must have what the other has! Yikes! I didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! My son's screech is getting unbearable, lol, when is he going to toughen up and defend himself against his "little" sister?? ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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Yikes! I
didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! BRBR Nope! At least not in our house. We have doubles of certain things, but I just don't think that is always the answer. I mean life just does not work like that right? That said, I also believe that kids (even one year olds) should have some things that are just theirs. Hang in there! Michelle Mommy to Riley Claire & James Michael |
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Yikes! I
didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! BRBR Nope! At least not in our house. We have doubles of certain things, but I just don't think that is always the answer. I mean life just does not work like that right? That said, I also believe that kids (even one year olds) should have some things that are just theirs. Hang in there! Michelle Mommy to Riley Claire & James Michael |
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On Mon, 20 Oct 2003 17:10:24 -0400 (EDT),
(Megan Byrne) wrote: that they would fight this early?? Don't know if this is a vent or quest for help! It seems that no matter what one is playing with, the other zooms in from across the room and wants that same toy. No longer are they content playing by themselves, they must have what the other has! Yikes! I didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! It happened to us when they were around a year old. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...lypictures.htm Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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My two have been doing this for some time now - they're almost 20
months old. One does it more than the other. No matter what Xander has, he want's what Ronan has. He'll go and take it away, and then Ronan will pick up whatever Xander had, and then - you guessed it! Xander has to have his original toy back. This even goes on with toys we have doubles of - doesn't matter that we have two, they must have the one their brother is playing with! For a while I just let them deal with it themselves, but it left Ronan crying a lot! Now whenver someone steals a toy, I take it away and give it back to the original player. It doesn't stop the crying, but at least I'm trying to teach them that they can't steal toys. Hasn't worked yet, but I have hope - they're still young, it hasn't been totally wiped out of my system yet! Good luck! Kim mom to Ronan & Xander 2/26/02 |
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Who knew...
My two have been doing this for some time now - they're almost 20
months old. One does it more than the other. No matter what Xander has, he want's what Ronan has. He'll go and take it away, and then Ronan will pick up whatever Xander had, and then - you guessed it! Xander has to have his original toy back. This even goes on with toys we have doubles of - doesn't matter that we have two, they must have the one their brother is playing with! For a while I just let them deal with it themselves, but it left Ronan crying a lot! Now whenver someone steals a toy, I take it away and give it back to the original player. It doesn't stop the crying, but at least I'm trying to teach them that they can't steal toys. Hasn't worked yet, but I have hope - they're still young, it hasn't been totally wiped out of my system yet! Good luck! Kim mom to Ronan & Xander 2/26/02 |
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I knew :-)
By about 14 months, I could no longer leave mine unattended long enough to jump through the shower ... teethmarks in everyone's back if I even went to the toilet. This is where you need to start the "ignore the offender and lavish attention on the victim" stuff. Teach 'em fast and firmly that mean behavior does *not* buy them want they want. I used to pick up the offender and dump them in the furthest corner of the room, not near any toys, then leave them to crawl their way back while I turned my back and calmed / played with the vic. Of course, you can't lavish TOO much attention on a whiner ... that leads to its own problems. So distraction and play rather than too much "poor little boo boo" is the way to go. :-) --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Megan Byrne" wrote in message ... that they would fight this early?? Don't know if this is a vent or quest for help! It seems that no matter what one is playing with, the other zooms in from across the room and wants that same toy. No longer are they content playing by themselves, they must have what the other has! Yikes! I didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! My son's screech is getting unbearable, lol, when is he going to toughen up and defend himself against his "little" sister?? ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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I knew :-)
By about 14 months, I could no longer leave mine unattended long enough to jump through the shower ... teethmarks in everyone's back if I even went to the toilet. This is where you need to start the "ignore the offender and lavish attention on the victim" stuff. Teach 'em fast and firmly that mean behavior does *not* buy them want they want. I used to pick up the offender and dump them in the furthest corner of the room, not near any toys, then leave them to crawl their way back while I turned my back and calmed / played with the vic. Of course, you can't lavish TOO much attention on a whiner ... that leads to its own problems. So distraction and play rather than too much "poor little boo boo" is the way to go. :-) --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Megan Byrne" wrote in message ... that they would fight this early?? Don't know if this is a vent or quest for help! It seems that no matter what one is playing with, the other zooms in from across the room and wants that same toy. No longer are they content playing by themselves, they must have what the other has! Yikes! I didn't think this happened until 'terrible two's'! My son's screech is getting unbearable, lol, when is he going to toughen up and defend himself against his "little" sister?? ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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Who knew...
This is where you need to start the "ignore the offender and lavish
attention on the victim" stuff. Teach 'em fast and firmly that mean behavior does *not* buy them want they want. BRBR This is what I have been doing for over a year now, and I have to say it is not bringing the results I had hoped for. Of course, you can't lavish TOO much attention on a whiner ... that leads to its own problems. BRBR Yep. In our case, Riley is 99% of the time the victim and has become a bit of a whiner. I have since begun the distraction game and keep telling her I can not understand her when she whines. Michelle Mommy to Riley Claire & James Michael |
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