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Are those Mommy's groups, and stay at home Mom's clubs etc usually such
pains in the butt to deal with? I have contacted 2 in my area to join - I live on the edge of a county and all my daughter's pediatricians, her park that she loves to go (which is just 5 minutes from our home or so) is all related to one branch of the local Mommy group- we *live* closest in proximity to their homes and their places of activities- stores, parks, etc that they meet at. It's just our zip code is not the same. 2 Mommy groups have turned me down because I don't live in their area, which is a crock because I DO. If I join the group where my zip code is mapped their activities are much further away, twice as far. Grrrrrrrrr! I mean, really. That's a crock of an excuse. They can (and should) do a background check if they want to, or meet me in person, but turning my down sight unseen from a stay at home mom's group that regulary does things mere 5-10 minutes from my home because of my physical address is a crock of ****. In fact, I see one group at the park all the time and it was at this park when I asked them that they told me I cannot join. They were talking it up and talking with me all friendly then when they asked me where I live, pfffft. Nope. I'd start my own, if I knew people, that's why I want to join. I just don't want to have to drive twice as far as the one closest to me. |
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"beyond the pale" wrote in message ... Are those Mommy's groups, and stay at home Mom's clubs etc usually such pains in the butt to deal with? I have contacted 2 in my area to join - I live on the edge of a county and all my daughter's pediatricians, her park that she loves to go (which is just 5 minutes from our home or so) is all related to one branch of the local Mommy group- we *live* closest in proximity to their homes and their places of activities- stores, parks, etc that they meet at. It's just our zip code is not the same. 2 Mommy groups have turned me down because I don't live in their area, which is a crock because I DO. If I join the group where my zip code is mapped their activities are much further away, twice as far. Grrrrrrrrr! I mean, really. That's a crock of an excuse. They can (and should) do a background check if they want to, or meet me in person, but turning my down sight unseen from a stay at home mom's group that regulary does things mere 5-10 minutes from my home because of my physical address is a crock of ****. In fact, I see one group at the park all the time and it was at this park when I asked them that they told me I cannot join. They were talking it up and talking with me all friendly then when they asked me where I live, pfffft. Nope. I'd start my own, if I knew people, that's why I want to join. I just don't want to have to drive twice as far as the one closest to me. Here is a copy and paste from their email: No kidding: "We regret to inform you that your application has been denied because you live too far outside of the area to be a part of this group." Meanwhile they are perhaps picnicking at the park that's 5 minutes away. It's not even a different county, just my postal address says a different town. Well, I wish them lots of fun and companionship. |
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Gosh, that's really sad. Wht don't you try starting your own? If you
go to a church, you can start one there. If not, just post an announcement somewhere in your neighborhood like the grocery store or the library--or you could run a little announcement in a neighborhood paper or alternative paper if there is in one where you live. Leslie |
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beyond the pale wrote:
Are those Mommy's groups, and stay at home Mom's clubs etc usually such pains in the butt to deal with? Yes. I am way too old to have ever been involved, but an online group I read has lots of women all over the country who belong and every one is frazzled dealing with the unnecessary bureaucracy and rules involved. If they won't listen to your explanation about living close to that group, I'm afraid you are out of luck. They don't often back down. Yep, what a bunch of b*ll. gloria p |
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"Puester" wrote in message
... beyond the pale wrote: Are those Mommy's groups, and stay at home Mom's clubs etc usually such pains in the butt to deal with? Yes. I am way too old to have ever been involved, but an online group I read has lots of women all over the country who belong and every one is frazzled dealing with the unnecessary bureaucracy and rules involved. If they won't listen to your explanation about living close to that group, I'm afraid you are out of luck. They don't often back down. Yep, what a bunch of b*ll. gloria p Really??? This is news to me. I mean, they all advertise themselves as a good network of friends for mothers, supportive, and all that. But that's what struck me when I observed the group having the get-together on the playground, there was actually one person who was standing at the gazebo supervising things, not involved but just seemed to be running things. I approached her with questions and she menttioned right away that the members pay dues in order to belong, almost as if she was making it clear that the kids would not be allowed to play with kids on the playground that don't "belong". Very odd- I mean, obviously, if dues are involved, you pay them for the benefit of participating, but they didn't seem to be that friendly. And if they are that nitpicky about memebers it does seem to be bull. I'd be much more understanding if they insist on background checks, like I said, but what's the point of excluding based on an address, if you're local?? The group that excluded me today is a FREE group, no dues, and I wanted to join mainly to have access to their online forums so we can discuss local things, but also, I would like to attend park play dates. I bet you money that there are quite a few members whose kids see my daughter's pediatrician- he is excellent. Now if I lived too far away would I possibly have DD be a patient of his?? It's quite weird. Another funny thing, this is a large metro area, and they accept an entire county. I am sure I live closer in proximity to MANY of the members, than some of the other members do. I live 10 minutes down the road potentially to members in the area I am interested in, those who live in the South side of the county live 30 minutes away. The national group, MOMS Club or whatever, will take me of course but only the branch that "accepts my zip code" not the one that's right next door |
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I contacted a mums group, part of the national group whatever that is, and
they wanted me to pay the dues before providing a list of activities, so I had no idea if there was anything I'd want to participate in before joining! Anne |
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beyond the pale wrote:
The national group, MOMS Club or whatever, will take me of course but only the branch that "accepts my zip code" not the one that's right next door I'll bet you dollars to doughnuts that those rules have to do with making sure one chapter doesn't poach another chapter's territory. While national groups like the MOMS Club and similar organization may be easier to find and more well advertised in your area, often the most successful groups are those that come out of some sort of shared experiences--neighborhood groups, parents' groups for a preschool, groups from birthing classes, etc. You don't have to start with a huge group if you want to make your own. Just fine one other mom and make a weekly date to do something with the kids. It helps grow the group if at least one of you is a bit outgoing ;-) Best wishes, Ericka |
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"beyond the pale" wrote in message ... Are those Mommy's groups, and stay at home Mom's clubs etc usually such pains in the butt to deal with? I have contacted 2 in my area to join - I live on the edge of a county and all my daughter's pediatricians, her park that she loves to go (which is just 5 minutes from our home or so) is all related to one branch of the local Mommy group- we *live* closest in proximity to their homes and their places of activities- stores, parks, etc that they meet at. It's just our zip code is not the same. 2 Mommy groups have turned me down because I don't live in their area, which is a crock because I DO. If I join the group where my zip code is mapped their activities are much further away, twice as far. Grrrrrrrrr! I mean, really. That's a crock of an excuse. They can (and should) do a background check if they want to, or meet me in person, but turning my down sight unseen from a stay at home mom's group that regulary does things mere 5-10 minutes from my home because of my physical address is a crock of ****. In fact, I see one group at the park all the time and it was at this park when I asked them that they told me I cannot join. They were talking it up and talking with me all friendly then when they asked me where I live, pfffft. Nope. I'd start my own, if I knew people, that's why I want to join. I just don't want to have to drive twice as far as the one closest to me. Do you have a meetup.com group in your area? Lots of those are free to join, some charge a yearly fee of about 5-10$ or something. Some will allow you to give the group a "test drive" for a month or so before you are required to pay your dues. Some ask for donations but do not require them. I am a member of a few mom's meetup groups right in my city. I like it because there's a message board as well as a monthly calendar of different events. Mainly, playdates and activities are in every area of the city daily, or in a week, there's normally at least a couple events close to home. Another bonus is that it's up to ME as to where I want to go - if I am wanting and willing to travel to the other end of the city to meet some other moms at a park, I can. If I don't want to, I don't have to. There's always a fairly wide range of activities going on - there's mom and tot events (parks, playdates, different types of activities, etc) as well as things intended for families (like family swim day on a weekend, bbqs and picnics that dads attend, etc) and also "mom's night outs" where little ones stay with Daddy and Mom gets to get some time with the girls and doesn't have to worry about the offspring. I do like my meetup groups - I've definitely met quite a few friends myself, as well as many for DS and the girls. I also do like the board, which offers some support, tips, ideas, random things. Maybe there's one in your area? It seems to be far less judgemental and they don't tell you no because you live 'too far away'! |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message
. .. I contacted a mums group, part of the national group whatever that is, and they wanted me to pay the dues before providing a list of activities, so I had no idea if there was anything I'd want to participate in before joining! Anne Here they let you attend 2 activities before joining, the only stipulation being obviously for safety reasons- you can't go to anything at someone's house, but you can attend a meeting and a park date, and I believe meetups at restaurants etc. This is the group which I'd rather attend the closer one. So, I didn't try it. |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote branch that "accepts my zip code" not the one that's right next door I'll bet you dollars to doughnuts that those rules have to do with making sure one chapter doesn't poach another chapter's territory. Yes, that's exactly what they said. It doesn't make sense though- what do they care which one I want to join?? Do they want the money? Is there some benefit to having 71 members instead of 70? .......? I think both local groups are large enough that it shouldn't seem to matter, but, it does for some reason. |
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