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Define the "Terrible Twos" for me?
toto wrote in message . ..
On Tue, 02 Dec 2003 08:13:45 GMT, "Jim Beaver" wrote: I'm the original poster who asked the question. First, thanks to all of you (even the perfect parent) for answering. I asked the question in the form I did, seeking observational and generic responses because I didn't want to start off by describing my situation and thus generating answers that unconsciously remodeled my situation into the situational experience of the respondent. At any rate, here's what I've got going on: My two-year-old (+ 3 mos.) has been an incredible child, mellow, outgoing, extremely compliant yet lively and assertive. Suddenly last week, she began having periods of near- or total hysteria--wanting to be picked up but immediately wanting to be put down if we picked her up, asking for all kinds of things and activities yet instantly reversing course the moment we made any attempt to act on her request, saying "no" to everything offered or suggested, yet also saying "no" to the withdrawal of those offers and suggestions, asking for a bottle then pushing it away the moment it was handed to her, all at a rising level of hysteria. None of it seemed to be deliberately oppositional behavior. Rather it just seemed that she suddenly had no idea whatsoever what she wanted and was asking for everything she thought of and then rejecting it if she got it. Trying to hold her and calm her escalated the situation immensely until she was screaming and crying uncontrollably. Yet leaving her to her own devices or even completely ignoring her led to similar escalation. This certainly doesn't sound age related.. Has her caregiver changed? Could something have happened that frightened her when you were not around? The worst part was that she began waking up once or twice a night, going instantly from a dead sleep to this same hysteria, and keeping it up sometimes for a couple of hours. Two is a common age for the beginning of nightmares. Night Terrors is also a possibility if you think she is not really waking up fully when you try to comfort her. She always used to wake up at least once a night and have a bottle, but always went quickly back to sleep, calmly. This sudden new turn of events is not calm, nor does it include a bottle, which she now rejects and asks for in rapid succession, but never takes. She eventually conks out after a couple of hours, but sometimes starts the same routine over again an hour or two later. In the past six days, I've averaged 3.5-to 4.5 hours sleep a night, NONE of it consecutive. I'm at my physical and mental rope's end. ((((((((((((((((((Jim))))))))))))))))))))))) I can see why. She is taking carbatrol, a medication to prevent seizure activity, to which she has shown some propensity. But this medication has been part of her normal life for a long time. When I first described the hysterics and the "no's", a lot of people told me, "Oh, it's the terrible twos." But after reading your many responses describing, without knowing the details of MY situation, what YOUR idea of the TT's is, it seems to me this is something different. Particularly the part about the sudden hysterics upon waking in the middle of the night. Has the dosage of the medication changed? Has anything in her diet changed? Is her routine the same? Have you spoken to your pediatrician about this? Perhaps there has been a change in her body chemistry that causes a reaction to the medication. I wouldn't presume to know if this is even possible, but your doctor might be able to help. Anyone have any ideas? I'm a 53 year old man with no one to help me during the night, and in less than a week, I've been driven nearly insane from exhaustion and worry about myself and my daughter. I cannot possibly continue in the current state of affairs until she's three or four! I'm not sure I can make Saturday. This is a tough situation all around. How verbal is she? Can you sit down with her when she is not hysterical and see if you can talk to her about her feelings? Can you ask her to draw a picture of what is making her scared? or angry? It's awfully hard to know what to do. Jim Beaver Jim, Did you ever respond to Peggy? I thought that she was very informative and nice in her responses. She has more to offer than me. My 10 year old also takes a preventive seizure medication. I have noted some changes in his behavior also, but opposite of what your seeing. He was more high strung and since his seizure seems somewhat less high strung. We may both have to see a physican about our children's behavior or discuss it once again with our neurologist. |
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Define the "Terrible Twos" for me?
Bev Brandt wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote in message ... What gets me about fives is that they're *so* rule bound--but it's *their* rules ;-) And when does this stop, exactly? Right now I'm going through the "Terrible Eights." Yeah, I've got a six year old who's still in the rule-bound phase and an eight year old who's having a bit of a "terrible" phase himself (everything's "impossible" but by God we're not going to believe anyone who tries to help us find the right answer). Best wishes, Ericka |
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Define the "Terrible Twos" for me?
Penny Gaines wrote in message ...
I've got three children: they acted noticeably differently at the ages 1.5 to 4 yo. One kid was incredibly easy, one was incredibly hard, and the other was in the middle. So many of the differences are down to the kid's temperament, rather then parenting skills. As for not being able to express what he wants, I am sure it could be real frustrating for some children, but my son is pretty good at talking so that has not been an issue. I don't think that covered the whole difference. The child who was best at speaking early also had the worse tantrums. Conversely, the kid who had very few words had the fewest tantrums. I have the same experience. Three children, all different one from another now and during their 2s and 3s (youngest is 3 and 3 mos.) and the one who was the most verbal the earliest was the most difficult. The current 3 y.o. is very verbal now, but he talked late and had fewer tantrums than anyone. The 2s and 3s seem to be a time when children start realizing that they have wants that aren't going to be filled automatically (versus needs that are filled sooner rather than later) and that they only have a little control over how the world works. And different little personalities handle this transition in, well...different ways! My boys - my oldest child and youngest child - hate, hate, HATE change! My oldest would cry and have a tantrum and generally freak out if I were to do something like... park the car in the driveway on a consistent basis rather than the garage. Youngest hates that, too. But he only *comments* on it, he doesn't cry about it. ("Nooooo! You park in garage!" "I can't today..." "Mphf...") And if he does cry about something, he pulls himself together very quickly, where my oldest could carry on for some time. And oldest was the one who could have made better commentary since he talked well and early! But no... My girl had her share of issues when she was 2 and 3, but they only seemed to come in spurts. Plus, if she was upset about something, she tended to go off by herself for comfort, rather than pitch a fit in public. (She still does that at 5.5) Different kids, different "terribleness" of the 2s. - Bev |
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I don't think it stops until they are over 18.... I have neices and nephews
who still have their moments! lol -- Joanie "You're stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and braver than you believe." ~Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh "Bev Brandt" wrote in message om... Ericka Kammerer wrote in message ... Joanie wrote: I love two's and ever threes... It's 4's and 5's that drive me batty! They know it ALL by 5 years old and they drive me nutts! What gets me about fives is that they're *so* rule bound--but it's *their* rules ;-) Best wishes, Ericka And when does this stop, exactly? Right now I'm going through the "Terrible Eights." - Bev |
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Define the "Terrible Twos" for me?
"Joanie" wrote in message ... I don't think it stops until they are over 18.... I have neices and nephews who still have their moments! lol The *only* cure is parenthood. |
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Define the "Terrible Twos" for me?
I don't know... I'm not a parents and I think I'm out of all of that LOL
-- Joanie "You're stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and braver than you believe." ~Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh "Markiosos2 Probertiosos2" wrote in message et... "Joanie" wrote in message ... I don't think it stops until they are over 18.... I have neices and nephews who still have their moments! lol The *only* cure is parenthood. |
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