no toys please

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I wish there WAS a polite way to specify, though. DD's birthday and
Christmas are close together, and really, by the time she gets through
her
birthday, she doesn't need much of anything for Christmas-but at least
while
she's a toddler, often things given now can't be saved for a few months
because if she's really into it now, that may change in 6 months.

I'm seriously considering celebrating a half-birthday in the summer, and
not
doing anything but a cake with family for her real birthday.


Really, there is no winning. My birthday is just before Christmas ... our
family tried to do a 1/2 birthday ... when my real birthday rolled around
it seemed like it didn't matter to anyone and my feelings were VERY hurt.
Talking w/ other ppl who have Christmas birthdays and had a 1/2 birthday
.. they have said the same thing.

My suggestions is ... don't wrap her birthday gifts in Christmas paper,
don't complain to her (or w/i her hearing) that her birthday being on/near
Christmas is a hardship and don't buy gifts that are 1/2 Christmas and 1/2
birthday gifts.

Good luck, it's not easy.




This is what we do also for my son whose birthday is in December. I just
couldnt figure out all the possible repercussions of a 1/2 birthday and
thought it was safer to stick with what I knew.

I have a sister whose twins and third child have birthdays within 5 days of
each other. Each gets their own cake according to their own design. And
while they have one party, the get to invite their own friends. They each
get to pick some games at the party...

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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I
go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would
gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but
toys.



You can do that anyway. Why do you need to be told to do that?

I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children) on
invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I had
boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be
considered rude or not. I would do it either way.

"Knit Chic" wrote in message
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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I
go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would
gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but
toys.

I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children) on
invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I had
boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be
considered rude or not. I would do it either way.




It it were me I would probably use that as a teachable moment on the
gracious acceptance and then quiet disposal of unwanted gifts. Well it
likely WILL be me eventually!

toypup wrote:
If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would interpret that as no toys but books or clothes are ok.

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Stephanie wrote:
"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE,"
do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay
or do you think that means no presents period? My first
impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to
thinking. . . .sigh

I think it means no toys but we would love your other
filthy lucre. I think indicating no gifts is Ok. But to
tell a gift giver WHAT to give unasked is rude. But...
that said, what are you going to do? I would get a book if
it were me.

If you were giving a gift, would you rather give a gift
that the recipient would use or would you rather give a
gift that the recipient already has 100s of? I think
indicating no toys because the kid has enough toys is
perfectly fine.

Boo got a bunch of toys for his last birthday, maybe a dozen
or so. of those, all but maybe 2 (which were a Playmobile & a
giant bubblewand) have gone into the trash or to charity.
i think it's a bit rude to specify what kind of gifts are ok,
but i can understand the no toys thing.
oh, & one of his gifts was a gift card to Toys R Us, a place
i generally dislike (i'm a fan of small independant toy
shops). because he had the gift card i took him there & let
him look around. there was not *one toy* he wanted there...
and you can't cash in gift cards. i'm so sad that person
wasted their money
lee

If nothing else, you can pick up batteries and something like that with the gift
card.

Or send it to us. One would almost certainly want to use it towards a
video game, but there's also Lego, all kinds of board games, balls and
bats and batting gloves and all kinds of sporting things, videos,
Imaginext and Thomas for my nephew, puzzles, toys/goggles for the
pool.

Barbara

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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think
that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I
go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would
gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but
toys.

??

So, what's stopping you now from spending the money on a gift card, a
book, a
movie pass, anything but toys?

Banty


I didn't say I didn't.
It depends on the kid ... for the most part it's either art/craft things (I
always as the parent first), books, or gift cards.
I would just like it if a parent put on the invite 'no toys'



But, if you realize that you can give non-toy things you'd rather give, why
would you want a 'no toys' comment on the invite?? It's no benefit to you; it
restricts others.

Banty

On Tue, 26 Jun 2007 14:06:22 -0400, Knit Chic wrote:

My suggestions is ... don't wrap her birthday gifts in Christmas paper,
don't complain to her (or w/i her hearing) that her birthday being on/near
Christmas is a hardship and don't buy gifts that are 1/2 Christmas and 1/2
birthday gifts.

DH has a New Year's Eve birthday. He said his family's birthdays were
always small. I wonder if MIL purposely made all birthdays small so that
DH wouldn't feel short-changed.

One year, IL's skipped Christmeas and visited for New Year's Eve. MIL had
each celebration separate. Each had a distinct beginning and ending so
that DH would have a birthday that was not a Christmas nor a New Year's Eve
party. Were it I, the party would have just been one big bash celebrating
everything.

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"Knit Chic" wrote in message
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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think
that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I
go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would
gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but
toys.



You can do that anyway. Why do you need to be told to do that?


I don't need to be told that, I didn't say that I did. I would like it if
people did that and it was in the norm. That you didn't have to worry about
people having problems with it because it would be considered rude. I don't
think it's rude at all.



I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children)
on invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I
had boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be
considered rude or not. I would do it either way.

"Knit Chic" wrote in
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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do
you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or
do you think that means no presents period? My first
impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to
thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no
toys! I would gladly spend the money on a gift card, a
book, a movie pass, anything but toys.

so, what's stopping you? we rarely buy a toy for a birthday
party unless we know that it's something the kid really wants
(like Stomp Rockets for Owen after he was over having so much
fun with Boo's). we mostly give books or Border's gift cards.

I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons
for children) on invites. Because we have girls ... it's
never been an issue. If I had boys, I would put it in the
invite. I don't know if it would be considered rude or
not. I would do it either way.

doesn't matter if boys have toy weapons or not. they will
*make* weapons from sticks, cardboard tubes, pipe cleaners,
bread... so, for the sake of budding creativity, i don't buy
toy weapons either
lee

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"Knit Chic" wrote in message
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"toypup" wrote in message
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If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think
that
means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no
presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I
go
to thinking. . . .sigh

I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would
gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but
toys.

I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children)
on invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I
had boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be
considered rude or not. I would do it either way.




It it were me I would probably use that as a teachable moment on the
gracious acceptance and then quiet disposal of unwanted gifts. Well it
likely WILL be me eventually!


We have done that as well.