Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)

"Phoebe & Allyson" schrieb im Newsbeitrag
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I've gotten multiple "what country did she come from / what agency did
you
use / I always wanted an Oriental baby" comments, though.

Must be foot-in-mouth-syndrome!

--
Tatjana
PCOS - TTC #1 for 3 years

I have a question for moms who NIP...and I am honestly asking this, so
please don't flame me, are you all using a blanket, or the sling while NIP?

Personally, I don't have a problem with NIP and anticipate that I will be
doing this when the time comes. I'm just curious. The only time when I
have done a double take is when a friend of mine BF her baby without
covering up in a crowded food court. I'm wondering how much discretion
plays a part in people's attitudes towards NIP.

I will probably cover up, but that is just me.

Please, don't flame me, I am just asking.
--
M~Elizabeth

To thine own self be true

Marie wibbled

Isn't it interesting, the ones who are most concerned about it are
mothers/MILs.

Not here, it's my Dad who's been the only person to make any
negative comment at all. He was also the only person to want to
touch my bump although he did ask first, at least. He got thumped by
T who was being very kicky that day. I don't think he disapproves
per se, he just worries: his comments have been along the lines of
"shouldn't you stop soon, he has teeth" and "will people criticise
you for feeding such a big baby in public?" (i.e. when T gets past
12 months). I think some of this is based on my mum's experiences
(she's very pro my NIP and extended BFing, as is MIL), and some on
the fact that I've complained about T biting me elsewhere. I have a
lovely set of teethmarks on my wrist as I type... but he's only
bitten me badly while nursing once. Unfortunately he did draw blood
but I think he's learned not to do it again. Being put abruptly into
the playpen during a nice sleepy feed was enough of a warning. :-)

FIL just avoids the subject entirely. He closes his eyes and falls
asleep if I feed T while he's in the room. ;-)

Jac

Sophie wrote:


Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude
to you? Just curious.


No - I've never gotten any comments about it, one way or the other.

Clisby

"Iuil" wrote in message
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"Sophie" wrote

Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything
rude
to you? Just curious.

Only my GP's receptionist (who really ought to have known better). She
insisted that I would be more comfortable in an empty office than in the
waiting room (3 other people, 2 men which I think was her problem). She
actually took my carseat and changing bag and carried them into the
office.

Personally, I would prefer the privacy of nursing in an empty office, rather
than in the waiting room.

Donna

"Circe" wrote in message
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Cheryl S. wrote:
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message
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Fortunately, no, no one's ever been rude to me. I
think a few people have been vaguely embarrassed (not because
they saw anything--just embarrassed that anyone would do
such a crazy thing in principle), but most of the time
there's been no response or a positive response. I've
had people tell me they've encountered rude people, so
either I'm lucky or maybe I'm just intimidating--I dunno ;-)

You and I probably give off the same "I dare you to say something"
vibe. ;-)

Ditto. I've always figured it was the same vibe I give off while pregnant
that says "Touch my belly and you're dead" g. I know I have gotten the
occasional offended look, but only because my husband tells me so. If he
didn't notice, I know I never would!

I think you must be right. I had the "touch my belly and you're dead" thing
going on now for two pregnancies (so far it's never happened), and I never
heard any negative comments, nor did I catch any negative looks when I was
nursing. Generally I was pretty discreet about where I nursed Sarah, but
sometimes nursing in public was unavoidable... like the time I had to nurse
her on a Southwest flight, in a middle seat, between two late-adolescent
boys, both of whom behaved beautifully. I swear, that one episode gives me
hope for the next generation.

Donna

"Jacqui" wrote in message
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Marie wibbled

Isn't it interesting, the ones who are most concerned about it are
mothers/MILs.

Not here, it's my Dad who's been the only person to make any
negative comment at all.

I have to say that the only person who was uncomfortable with my nursing was
my father, too. He never said anything, but he was definitely
uncomfortable. When I was with him, I would find a ladies room or go into a
bedroom to nurse Sarah. shrugs The guy is 70. I figure it's the least I
can do.

Donna

"melizabeth" wrote in message
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I have a question for moms who NIP...and I am honestly asking this, so
please don't flame me, are you all using a blanket, or the sling while
NIP?

Personally, I don't have a problem with NIP and anticipate that I will be
doing this when the time comes. I'm just curious. The only time when I
have done a double take is when a friend of mine BF her baby without
covering up in a crowded food court. I'm wondering how much discretion
plays a part in people's attitudes towards NIP.


I never used a sling, and I never really got good at manoeuvreing the baby
and the boob and the blanket. What I did instead was to find quiet places
to nurse, when in public (empty airline gates, the car, once on a bench
outside of the ladies room at a ski area - places that were as isolated as
possible given the fact that I was out in public), and I wore nursing tops,
which for me, being blanket-impaired grin, were a godsend. People knew I
was nursing, but good nursing clothing made the chances of me flashing
anything interesting nearly academic. For those of us who are a bit
reserved, but who can't manage blankets, nursing tops are WONDERFUL.


Donna

"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message
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Circe wrote:
Ditto. I've always figured it was the same vibe I
give off while pregnant that says "Touch my belly
and you're dead" g. I know I have gotten the
occasional offended look, but only because my
husband tells me so. If he didn't notice, I know
I never would!

Yeah, I must have the no-belly-touching thing going too.
No stranger has *ever* touched my belly, and hardly any
relatives have either--even the ones who would have been
welcome to do so ;-)

No-belly-touching definitely must be the same vibe then because I also
never had anyone even attempt to touch my belly except one dear friend,
and Julie, who liked to "play midwife" by listening to my belly with her
toy stethoscope, measuring it with a tape measure, and taking my blood
pressure.
--
Cheryl S.
Mom to Julie, 3, and Jaden, 9 months

You need a code word! At our house, breastfeeding was called dee-dee
(we had a Filipina nanny who used that term with her own daughter and
it "stuck" at our place as well). That worked well, since when a kid
was begging for it out it public, or talking about it, it didn't sound
so bad (i.e. the miserable toddler yelling in the mall that he or she
wanted DEE DEE, or saying look Mommy, that baby is having some
dee-dee.

Mary G.