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Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
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Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta


You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I
think I will listen to His Grace's advice.

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the
courts. You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together.
Why put control of such an important issue in the hands of total
strangers who feel that their formulae are more important than the
parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta


You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I think
I will listen to His Grace's advice.

Oh--you mean your ex is such an uncaring father that he would try to
shortchange his daughter? That is really sad!!

teachrmama wrote:
"Soprano" wrote in message
...
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the
courts. You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together.
Why put control of such an important issue in the hands of total
strangers who feel that their formulae are more important than the
parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I think
I will listen to His Grace's advice.

Oh--you mean your ex is such an uncaring father that he would try to
shortchange his daughter? That is really sad!!


No, that's not the problem. There are other problems which I don't want
to discuss publicly anymore.

On Jul 25, 12:22?am, Soprano wrote:
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I
think I will listen to His Grace's advice.- Hide quoted text -

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If by "His Grace" you mean God, I don't think God gives advice in
regards to Child Support LOL

As for "former head of Family Support Services", quite possibly there
is a reason for being a "former", perhaps giving out bad advice.

Relayer wrote:
On Jul 25, 12:22?am, Soprano wrote:
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?
"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta
You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I
think I will listen to His Grace's advice.- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

If by "His Grace" you mean God, I don't think God gives advice in
regards to Child Support LOL

As for "former head of Family Support Services", quite possibly there
is a reason for being a "former", perhaps giving out bad advice.

I mean His Grace Bishop NIKOLAI Bishop of the Russian Orthodox Diocese
of Alaska, OCA, the reason His Grace left His Grace's secular job was to
go to Alaska. The governor held a day in His Grace's honor (prior to His
Grace being consecrated a bishop) because of the work His Grace did.
His Grace held a secular job so His Grace could financially support His
Grace's parishes. His Grace was the chancellor of the Diocese of the
West at the time. His Grace was also tonsured a monk at age 21. His
Grace is also Serbian American. I hoped that cleared up all misconceptions.

"Soprano" wrote in

I mean His Grace Bishop NIKOLAI Bishop of the Russian Orthodox Diocese of
Alaska, OCA, the reason His Grace left His Grace's secular job was to go
to Alaska. The governor held a day in His Grace's honor (prior to His
Grace being consecrated a bishop) because of the work His Grace did.
His Grace held a secular job so His Grace could financially support His
Grace's parishes. His Grace was the chancellor of the Diocese of the West
at the time. His Grace was also tonsured a monk at age 21. His Grace is
also Serbian American.


I hoped that cleared up all misconceptions.

Perfectly! LOL

If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

Brook Harty wrote:
If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta
I know that. And that is why I did not file those papers for a year. But
I discussed it with the former head of Family Support Services and His
Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake.