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Being a single father who married a woman without kids, I can testify to the
nightmare of teaching somebody to be a parent. It is not your girlfriend or wife's job to parent YOUR kids. That's your job...so why do you need to "teach" her anything? I agree that dating someone who is a parent is a plus and it's difficult for someone who is not a parent to understand, but sorry, the way of the world is that if someone is out "looking for a single mom" red flags all over the field. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "'Kate" wrote in message ... On 13 Dec 2004 21:52:41 GMT, EMOVE (Bjarki 009) wrote: I've always judges people by the children they raise. Uh oh. looking around Mine are a little warped. Ask the neighbors, their friends' parents, their doctor's and teachers, etc. BTW, I believe genetics to have something to do with behavior. I also think that environment can include areas outside of my jurisdiction. Even so... I did warp them. I like'em that way. They make me laugh and they sing in the car. They get that from me. :-) 'Kate Yeah? But do they let YOU sing in the car? Mine won't LOL Well mine don't mind me singing, but my 7 yr old daughter corrects me when I get the lyrics wrong! Cheeky miss is always right too. : )) Stace |
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message news:sOIud.9727$eb3.4717@clgrps13... "john jones" wrote in message ... iam single m 41 nc u can email me if u like to tell few thimg Hey I don't know about other single Moms but this one has standards and forming complete sentences along with proper spelling just happens to be one of them. Hmm could be why I'm still single though. lol Nope......its because you live up in the cold north boonies ;-) I'm willing to relocate. Christine |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... Being a single father who married a woman without kids, I can testify to the nightmare of teaching somebody to be a parent. It is not your girlfriend or wife's job to parent YOUR kids. That's your job...so why do you need to "teach" her anything? You're not really suggesting that his wife has no voice where the children are concerned, are you? Lisa I agree that dating someone who is a parent is a plus and it's difficult for someone who is not a parent to understand, but sorry, the way of the world is that if someone is out "looking for a single mom" red flags all over the field. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Tue, 14 Dec 2004 22:24:08 +1300, "Moonlight" wrote: "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "'Kate" wrote in message ... On 13 Dec 2004 21:52:41 GMT, EMOVE (Bjarki 009) wrote: I've always judges people by the children they raise. Uh oh. looking around Mine are a little warped. Ask the neighbors, their friends' parents, their doctor's and teachers, etc. BTW, I believe genetics to have something to do with behavior. I also think that environment can include areas outside of my jurisdiction. Even so... I did warp them. I like'em that way. They make me laugh and they sing in the car. They get that from me. :-) 'Kate Yeah? But do they let YOU sing in the car? Mine won't LOL Well mine don't mind me singing, but my 7 yr old daughter corrects me when I get the lyrics wrong! Cheeky miss is always right too. : )) Stace Kids have special hearing. They can tell what the real words are long before adults figure them out. I remember one of the lines that we puzzled over. It was "With birds I share this lonely view" . Had to look it up. It's not like these are real sentances! 'Kate Ahh! A great RHCP's song! My nearly 4 year old sings in the car, and how he remembers the words is beyond me. He does sing along with ones that I don't even know the words to (because they can be hard to understand) and I've been listening to the particular song for ages. -- A: Because it messes up the order in which people normally read text. Q: Why is top-posting such a bad thing? A: Top-posting. Q: What is the most annoying thing on usenet? |
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You're not really suggesting that his wife has no voice where the children
are concerned, are you? Yes I am. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... You're not really suggesting that his wife has no voice where the children are concerned, are you? Yes I am. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle That surprises me. I see it quite differently. The children, husband and wife are a whole, not separate. The step parent must understand that by becoming a part of the family, they are accepting a parenting role. Would you marry a man that would not be a part of your children's lives? Would you marry a man that does not share your same moral values so that he too could set an example as your children grow and learn? Would you tolerate a husband that told you not to be involved in parenting his children? In the above, I am not saying "you" as specifically you, Joelle. These are just some angles that I considered to be pretty essential for me, personally, and open up these thoughts for general discussion in a "don't bite me" sort of way. Lisa |
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Joelle wrote:
It is not your girlfriend or wife's job to parent YOUR kids. That's your job...so why do you need to "teach" her anything? Any woman in my life is a role model for my children, particularly my middle daughter. When I married my wife we hadn't lived together (long distance relationship) and she had no children. No nieces or nephews near by either. She had no idea how to relate to young minds. As my wife, it is indeed her "job" to assist in the raising of all the children ... mine, hers, ours. A healthy marriage is a partnership in all things. After all, if you don't trust your partner what are you doing having your kids around them? I agree that dating someone who is a parent is a plus and it's difficult for someone who is not a parent to understand, but sorry, the way of the world is that if someone is out "looking for a single mom" red flags all over the field. Caution is admirable in most all situations. But "red flag" is a "stop". A "yellow flag" for "caution" is perhaps a better description. Perhaps they can not have children of their own. Perhaps they have a family member who is a single parent and understand the dynamics of that life style. Perhaps your negativity and suspicions are based on your experiences with a step father? Whatever the reasons, I can't agree to an automatic "red flag" just because of a person's likes. Shall we "red flag" all people who have any preconceived ideas of what they want in a partner?. Bjarki |
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