How to stop the night wakings?

MarieD wrote:
"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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Why does the area have to be quiet? One of the other things that my
mom told me was not to tiptoe around when the baby was asleep because
then she would wake at every noise. Whereas when you are running the
vacuum or dishwasher or whatever, or if she had siblings playing
around, she'd get used to some noise. Is it that quiet at the daycare
when she takes her nap?

There are babies who will not sleep through normal noises. My first two
babies slept through everything, but my youngest did not. She can't
sleep in total silence, either. She sleeps with a fan. When she was a
baby, if we were not silent, she would not sleep. She was already a
horrible sleeper, and because I knew you weren't supposed to be quiet
when babies were sleeping it was quite awhile before we tried being
really quiet during her napping. It did help somewhat. I can't sleep
through things, either. The husband, he can sleep through absolutely
anything. Really.

I think it's one of those things that in an ideal world would be fine.
But we live in the real world, there is both the individual level of
sensitivity and the fact that we know that sleep goes in cycles. There
is also the sense of a physical barrier, in a room open and close to the
rest of the house, there will be awareness of parental activities that
the child may want to be involved in. Shutting a door is more than just
blocking out sound - we've had a few issues here, DS and DD share, DD is
younger and closing the door seems to be very symbolic to her, she knows
that means you stay in bed. For a while DS struggled with the dark and
wanted the door open, which would mean DD wouldn't stay in bed, even if
she didn't come out of the room, the door was a symbolic barrier between
staying in bed and going to sleep and getting out and playing.

Anne