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Ladies: How to Catch YOUR Tiger
Thursday, December 17, 2009
By Marc H. Rudov
She Ignored Her Gut

Since Thanksgiving, news of the Tiger Woods infidelity scandal has continued
to shock us. The mistress count of this once-squeaky-clean superstar
increments daily. The last tally was 14, but I gave up after he was linked
to Jessica Simpson. Tiger's behavior is reprehensible; his sponsors - and
wife - were right to leave him.

There are a few facets of this sordid story, though, that aren't surprising.
First, Elin Nordegren, Tiger's scorned wife, inflicted domestic violence on
her cheating husband - with impunity. No matter how angry or jealous or
wronged a woman feels, she has no right to hit a man. Yet, our society
condones and trivializes female-on-male violence. Barry Williams (aka Greg
Brady) most likely will see his dangerous fiancee get a slap on the wrist
for her violence.

Had Tiger caught Elin with other men, then proceeded to beat and scratch her
face, chase her with a golf club, and smash her car windows, he'd be in jail
or anger management. America's gynocracy, however, has a double standard: a
cheating husband is worse than an animal - while a cheating wife is merely a
helpless, troubled victim.

Second, it has been reported that Elin will move her children to Sweden,
without Tiger's permission. As I've written befo women own children; men
rent them. Can you imagine any judge allowing a man to move his children far
away from a cheating wife? No, you can't.

Third, it's not too surprising, and is perhaps ironic, that Tiger was
unfaithful to Elin: father Earl was unfaithful to Tiger's mother. Products
of cheating, alcoholic, violent, or distant parents often bury their
feelings about painful childhood experiences, harden their hearts, and then
repeat those same behaviors in adulthood.

Finally, Elin could have predicted her husband's philandering. According to
various sources, her gut told her to not to get involved with Tiger, but she
ignored her gut - always a bad idea. Let's examine the red flags:

Tiger and Elin met at the 2001 British Open at Royal Lytham & St. Annes,
where Elin was working as an au pair for pro golfer Jesper Parnevik and his
wife Mia. Allegedly, Elin had no interest in golf, golfers, the limelight,
celebrities, or being any man's eye-candy. Tiger, the defending champion,
possibly rattled by meeting Elin, finished in 25th place.
Tiger frequently tried to reach Elin at the Parnevik's home, but she wasn't
interested and didn't take his calls. Too wimpy to ask her out directly, he
enlisted a friend to intervene. Further turned off by Tiger's use of a
"dating agent," Elin rejected him repeatedly.
Viewing female conquests like golf trophies en route to besting Jack
Nicklaus's record, Tiger relentlessly pursued Elin. Finally, in 2002, she
agreed to go out with him. They married in 2004. The rest is history.

Cheating 101


Why do people cheat? Simple. Boys are raised to be cheaters; girls are
raised to encourage cheating. Both parents - especially mothers - are
responsible. Did you teach your son to be chivalrous, that he must be a
perfect gentleman, that the toilet seat's default position is down, that he
must court women and finance their lifestyles? Did you teach your daughter
to expect and demand such largesse from men?

Congratulations! You emasculated your son and disempowered your daughter.
You taught your kids to use and disrespect their paramours and spouses - and
themselves - that sex is a weapon, a reward, a financial transaction.

You convinced your son that life with a woman is a mandatory ride on the
Estrogen Express and coached your daughter to drive the train. You taught
your son to chase and your daughter to be chased. Are you surprised, then,
that either one of them has, or is, a cheating spouse?

Luxurious Salve for Her Wounds

Cheaters are cowards. Instead of fixing or leaving relationships they hate,
cheaters engage in deceit - because they're bored, insecure, sexually
dissatisfied, poorly matched, predisposed to infidelity, or all of the
above. Some believe monogamy is humanly impossible. Really? Then, so is
sobriety. In fact, infidelity is a choice - like obesity, drug addiction,
and unhappiness.

Given all the marital duplicity in our society, it's clear that lots of
folks enter relationships and marriages assuming it will occur - either by
them or to them. There's one difference, though: payout. Elin Nordegren,
who, in five years, rose from nanny to mommy, could walk away from Tiger
with $300M - luxurious salve for her wounds. She'll prove, again, that women
financially benefit from infidelity.

A new term has surfaced in our lexicon: Tiger Woods Syndrome. It's a
condition of marital uncertainty causing women suddenly to question their
husbands' whereabouts. Why? Men and women cheat equally, and most never get
caught. Did men ever speak of Caroline Kennedy Syndrome or Kerry Kennedy
Syndrome? Any man who thinks his wife is too innocent to cheat is worse than
naive.

Cheating whacks men disproportionately hard. First, men pay alimony in 97%
of cases, regardless of whose infidelity ends the marriage. Second, cheating
wives can get pregnant and then, surreptitiously, deliver extramarital
babies. Paternity fraud, according to DNA tests around the world, occurs
about 30% of the time.

Catch-a-Tiger Gameplan

There are plenty of women wishing - secretly and not so secretly - that they
could trade places with Elin. After all, she's getting what most women
really want from marriage: casa, cash, and kids.

So, to every woman who wants to catch her own Tiger - to trade pain for
payment - I offer the following gameplan:

Your Behavior

a.. Be a taker, a merchant maureen, an entitled princess whose life is
the axis of the "relationship."
b.. Live on a pedestal, and talk only to men who want you there. Your
femininity and self-esteem depend on being chased and courted and pleased
and showered with gifts.
c.. Men must worship and take care of you, and finance your lifestyle.
Reject all men who believe in male/female equality. You want a new daddy who
will treat you like a dependent daughter!
d.. Always use sex as a weapon/reward, based on how much he pleases or
displeases you.
e.. Never let this pathetic doormat discover your secret sex partner(s).
When you discover his tryst(s), punch him, file for divorce, ruin him
financially, and take your children away from him.
His Behavior

a.. He brags about his wealth, promises you the moon, and begs you to
spend his loot.
b.. He's a mama's boy who was raised to make women happy.
c.. He chases you relentlessly. The more you play hard to get, the more
he chases. Chasing = cheating. As I wrote in "Chasing Pavlovian Sex," a
chasing man has zero interest in you - so, that's your man.
d.. He vastly outearns you and insists on paying for everything, at all
times. He says he wants to take care of you, provide for you, clothe you,
bejewel you, travel with you - all at his expense.
e.. Nothing bores a man like a new conquest, a new trophy. Don't worry,
this "perfect gentleman," this conqueror, no matter how much he smiles, is
already contemplating or banging the next conquest.
The NoNonsense Bottom Line

My gameplan above is quite sickening and dysfunctional - and popular. It is
the gameplan most men and women follow in their dealings with each other. It
is the reason relationships and marriages, by and large, don't succeed.

In my experience, though, no matter how many times I coach people from
broken relationships and marriages, or watch public figures burn in romantic
flames, there's no change in sight. Men continue to chase and lose. Women
continue to be chased and "win." Result: mutual loathing, self-loathing,
cheating, and large transfers of wealth from men to women.

People engage in destructive behavior for one reason: they believe they
deserve it. How sad.

 




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