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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
I agree. I could not leave my baby that young even with grandparents.
Especially if the baby had never been with them before. I would see if you guys could splurge and have you go as well. It would be nice if you could all be together. Im sure that his parents would never do anything to harm the baby but depending on how old they are and how old fashioned they are they might handle situations differently. I mean when was that last time they cared for an infant that young 24hrs day??? |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Beth Kevles" wrote in message ... Hi -- Can you go too? Well, we've been trying to be more frugal since I've opted not to go back to work for a while longer with a new baby at home. Summer airfare to Germany is astronomical... We may be going back this Christmas, if things go well. |
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"Sidheag McCormack" wrote in message ... oregonchick writes: My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel a little guilty. He wants to leave the baby with his parents, who are presumably not well known to the baby, without either parent, for a week? My opinion of that is untypable in a family newsgroup. Let's settle for "no way". I understand your strong reaction, but for me there's no need to react like this as my husband supports my decision no matter what it is. But my gut said the same thing that you did. |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"peggy-o" wrote in message ups.com... I agree. I could not leave my baby that young even with grandparents. Especially if the baby had never been with them before. I would see if you guys could splurge and have you go as well. It would be nice if you could all be together. Im sure that his parents would never do anything to harm the baby but depending on how old they are and how old fashioned they are they might handle situations differently. I mean when was that last time they cared for an infant that young 24hrs day??? Um, like 40 years ago... and lets face it, things were alot different back then, especially in Europe (compared to the US) |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"oregonchick" wrote in message
... My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel a little guilty. Opinions? I wouldn't do that now, with my 22 month old. She's breastfeeding, but regardless of that it would upset her no end. There would have to be a hell of a more important reason than 'giving the grandparents time with the kids'. They must take an extremely naive view, or just don't want to see that the reality of the situation is that they'll have an upset, unsettled, disturbed child for most of the time who won't love them anymore for it. My daughter was gradually accustomed to spending longer periods of time away from me when she was 11 months and I went back to work part time. And then, it was with the grandparents she knew. -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Mum of Two" wrote in message ... "oregonchick" wrote in message ... My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel a little guilty. Opinions? I wouldn't do that now, with my 22 month old. She's breastfeeding, but regardless of that it would upset her no end. There would have to be a hell of a more important reason than 'giving the grandparents time with the kids'. They must take an extremely naive view, or just don't want to see that the reality of the situation is that they'll have an upset, unsettled, disturbed child for most of the time who won't love them anymore for it. My daughter was gradually accustomed to spending longer periods of time away from me when she was 11 months and I went back to work part time. And then, it was with the grandparents she knew. Well, I guess I didn't include enough details. It was my husband's idea, not the grandparents. I don't even think they know that he had considered it. And he only brought it up to see how I felt about it - he has never had children before, and is kind of naive to what would really be involved in doing this. But he does now! |
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"oregonchick" wrote in message
. .. Well, I guess I didn't include enough details. It was my husband's idea, not the grandparents. I don't even think they know that he had considered it. And he only brought it up to see how I felt about it - he has never had children before, and is kind of naive to what would really be involved in doing this. But he does now! Oh, well that makes more sense! Most new fathers wouldn't understand the effect something like that could have on a child, unless they'd had a lot of contact with young children. For that matter, I don't think a lot of new mothers would either; I was very naive about that while pregnant. -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
oregonchick wrote: My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel a little guilty. Opinions? Absolutely not. I think the very suggestion is hideous. If they are so hot to see the baby, they can come visit YOU for a week, and see their only grandchild in her home, where she's with her mother and won't be traumatized by being separated from you for that long. Or, if you want to travel, you can go with her and stay with her at his parents for a week, but there is NO way that I would allow my daughter to go anywhere for that long without me. None. Not under any circumstances in the world. Not even if I were in the hospital or something. Good God... My daughter is 8.5 months right now, and she is having major stranger anxiety (and, related to your daughter or not, these people are strangers to her!). If I am out of sight, she screams. My mom (who she knows well, and has seen on a regular basis since she was born) tried to take her in another room to show her off today, and the minute I was out of her sight, DD was throwing her body in the direction of the room where I was and screaming. There is no way on earth that I would let her out of the building I was in for a day, much less out of the country for a week. You shouldn't feel guilty for one minute. I think your husband is insane for suggesting it. And if your MIL went along with it, or suggested it in any way, I think it is very telling... I wouldn't trust someone who thinks it's ok for a child that young to be away from her mother for a week to watch my kid for an hour. Even if your husband were going to be there, it wouldn't be ok. It is not ok until she's old enough to understand what's going on. Think of it from her point of view, with her limited ability to understand the world. What would she think had happened? All of a sudden, she's in a strange house, with strange people, and strange smells, speaking a strange language that she doesn't understand, with nothing that reminds her of home? Oh my God, it's a horrible thought. Do NOT do it. And don't feel guilty at all - that's ridiculous. You are her MOTHER. You're her world right now. She doesn't care about anything but having you with her. You are the source of all safety and comfort and happiness in her tiny little world. Don't do this to her. Amy |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
Mum of Two skrev:
I wouldn't do that now, with my 22 month old. She's breastfeeding, but regardless of that it would upset her no end. There would have to be a hell of a more important reason than 'giving the grandparents time with the kids'. They must take an extremely naive view, or just don't want to see that the reality of the situation is that they'll have an upset, unsettled, disturbed child for most of the time who won't love them anymore for it. My daughter was gradually accustomed to spending longer periods of time away from me when she was 11 months and I went back to work part time. And then, it was with the grandparents she knew. Their view can be influenced by the fact that most mothers work in Europe, so most kids of age 8 mos is in some kind of daycare all day. That doesn't mean it's a good idea, and 8 mos is a delicate age. Tine, Denmark |
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your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Workingmom" schreef in bericht ... Their view can be influenced by the fact that most mothers work in Europe, so most kids of age 8 mos is in some kind of daycare all day. Not in Germany. Germany is as old-fashioned as The Netherlands in these. Jan |
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