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turtledove typed: wrote in message . com... In , CME typed: "steveb" wrote in message ... (Kristen313) lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: Oh, oh, oh can I be on that list??? lmao Christine No Christine, and now neither, sadly(?) can I. Merely by posting here, we are now "involved." LOL Never fear... I've already written you both up! So, you are on MY list...so watch yourself!! hehe, *b Hmmmm. Being on the Queen B's list...is this a good thing or a bad thing? BTW when dealing with nicknames...I used to be known as Beasty. Long story, maybe someday I will share it if anyone's interested. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. |
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"turtledove" wrote in message . com... wrote in message . com... In , CME typed: "steveb" wrote in message ... (Kristen313) lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: Oh, oh, oh can I be on that list??? lmao Christine No Christine, and now neither, sadly(?) can I. Merely by posting here, we are now "involved." LOL Never fear... I've already written you both up! So, you are on MY list...so watch yourself!! hehe, *b AHHHHH my Elementary years have come flooding back to me!!! lol Christine |
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wrote in message . com... In . com, turtledove typed: wrote in message . com... In , CME typed: "steveb" wrote in message ... (Kristen313) lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: Oh, oh, oh can I be on that list??? lmao Christine No Christine, and now neither, sadly(?) can I. Merely by posting here, we are now "involved." LOL Never fear... I've already written you both up! So, you are on MY list...so watch yourself!! hehe, *b Hmmmm. Being on the Queen B's list...is this a good thing or a bad thing? BTW when dealing with nicknames...I used to be known as Beasty. Long story, maybe someday I will share it if anyone's interested. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. Well you know you can't just leave it at that! lol Spill it girl. Christine |
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"turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... My advice is to develop thicker skin Maybe all the people who yelled at me for saying this is an unsupportive support group need to also develop thicker skins. After all, I was speaking the truth, apparently. I think... I can't say for sure because most of the posts are gone now (I've been away) but from past experience, I know I get tired of hearing the same old bull**** from some newbies and I have little tolerance for people who come in he uneducated about the FAQ and NGs in particular, get defensive about the 'advice' they ARE given, and then lash out when it's obvious we don't agree with them. We are a group of people who have been here for a number of years and we support each other. If you take a stab at Joelle, or Bri, or Tiff etc... we fight back and then anything you DO have to say gets lost. When you come to realize that, and cool off and STOP the attacks, then people will see the value you may have to contribute here (I speak from first hand experience). But as it stands, you are just causing trouble and I think you know that, and no one here is going to let up, we've been here far too long to let someone like you, really impact on our lives. Harsh, but true. Christine ((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))) I think a ton about you as well Christine. We may not always agree, but I 200% adore your sense of humor and admire your perseverance with all you do. smooch!!! *bri Ahhh... now my heart's gone all mushy. lmao So Bri, I've been in and out for awhile, did you move to Las Vegas? How are things? Christine |
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"CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... My advice is to develop thicker skin Ahhh... now my heart's gone all mushy. lmao So Bri, I've been in and out for awhile, did you move to Las Vegas? How are things? Christine Nope...not yet. Hopefully we'll be there at the end of August. Now we're just trying to pack and get the house ready to put it on the market. We may even have someone interested in it already....my son's best friend's mother is wanting to get out of her apartment and be a first time home buyer. Our place is in the subdivision she wants, she knows the house, and knows us well enough to know we'll have everything top notch in order to sell it...so (fingers crossed) she's looking to make sure she's got her finances in order to prepare to be a home owner! Things are going okay..just busy. DS passed his test and is being promoted to fourth grade. My husband has some steady work. School is doing much better than I ever thought it would. And...if the weather holds out my husband is going to take me to Key West next week for one last visit before we head west. Key West is our piece of heaven on earth. It's hard to explain...but it holds a special place in our hearts. It was our first big date, and it's always been the place we go when we really need to get our personal lives in order. He took me there a few months after the accident as well...it really boosted my spirits. Something about the sea air and the laid back mood of the island. I love old time Florida. I miss living next to the ocean (raised down the coast from Cape Kennedy....think I Dream of Jeannie houses...I grew up on and near Patrick AFB where the show was filmed). I'm really going to miss my home and this is sorta our last 'hooray' before the big move....... sigh.... how have YOU been? What have you been up to? hugs, *bri |
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"CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... My advice is to develop thicker skin Ahhh... now my heart's gone all mushy. lmao So Bri, I've been in and out for awhile, did you move to Las Vegas? How are things? Christine Nope...not yet. Hopefully we'll be there at the end of August. Now we're just trying to pack and get the house ready to put it on the market. We may even have someone interested in it already....my son's best friend's mother is wanting to get out of her apartment and be a first time home buyer. Our place is in the subdivision she wants, she knows the house, and knows us well enough to know we'll have everything top notch in order to sell it...so (fingers crossed) she's looking to make sure she's got her finances in order to prepare to be a home owner! Things are going okay..just busy. DS passed his test and is being promoted to fourth grade. My husband has some steady work. School is doing much better than I ever thought it would. And...if the weather holds out my husband is going to take me to Key West next week for one last visit before we head west. Key West is our piece of heaven on earth. It's hard to explain...but it holds a special place in our hearts. It was our first big date, and it's always been the place we go when we really need to get our personal lives in order. He took me there a few months after the accident as well...it really boosted my spirits. Something about the sea air and the laid back mood of the island. I love old time Florida. I miss living next to the ocean (raised down the coast from Cape Kennedy....think I Dream of Jeannie houses...I grew up on and near Patrick AFB where the show was filmed). I'm really going to miss my home and this is sorta our last 'hooray' before the big move....... sigh.... how have YOU been? What have you been up to? hugs, *bri Not a damn thing, I've been on vacation and it's nice, but boring. I'm catching up on Y&R, doing some pleasure reading (Outlander series, I bought the new Harry Potter etc) and just plain taking it easy so I can hit the books hard core in the fall. Brian's good, the kids are great, everything is pretty good. One thing that I'm finding complicated is making the transition from online relationship to reality... any advice on that front? lol Christine yeah, keep the online relationship going as well. My hubby and I still do. Of course, not as much...but even though the computers are only about 10 feet away, we still send a lot of emails and are involved with each other's online activities. It took awhile for us to be able to open up face to face as we did email to email....but we did and we're better for it. In fact, when he's upset he is forbidden to WRITE me about it...he has to TELL me.... One day at a time, one step in front of the other, we just clicked at the beginning...we've had some really rough patches, but we realize we've been through a rather difficult year in general. He has a better understanding of how my injury affected (effected?) my personality a bit better and he's learned to work around it. I'm quite ADD now and my emotions still ride on the surface pretty easy....so he's had to adjust to this new me as much as I have. But we're going good (finally!!) oh yeah, make time for just the two of you. Even if it's only for 15 minutes at a time. Just time where you can look at him and each of you know how much you appreciate each other. hugs, *bri |
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CME typed: wrote in message . com... In . com, turtledove typed: wrote in message . com... In , CME typed: "steveb" wrote in message ... (Kristen313) lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: Oh, oh, oh can I be on that list??? lmao Christine No Christine, and now neither, sadly(?) can I. Merely by posting here, we are now "involved." LOL Never fear... I've already written you both up! So, you are on MY list...so watch yourself!! hehe, *b Hmmmm. Being on the Queen B's list...is this a good thing or a bad thing? BTW when dealing with nicknames...I used to be known as Beasty. Long story, maybe someday I will share it if anyone's interested. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. Well you know you can't just leave it at that! lol Spill it girl. Christine OK here it goes. I began working at a local hospital on the night shift. When my diabetes got so out of control the doctor told me no more nights, I switched to the day shift. The first day I worked, they spelled my name wrong when putting up the assignment. Instead of Betsy, I was called Besty. That was actually pretty cool. "Best" nurse...Besty. Well after a couple of weeks of being called Besty every morning the charge nurse made a slip. Subconcious I don't really know. Anyway, the e came out long instead of short. Thus the nickname Beasty was born. Of course while telling the story, one of the Cardiologists overheard and commented, "Don't worry, it's just Bitch for short." I knew then I really belonged, because that doctor either ignored you, or picked on you. Once picked on, you were a true staff member. So I was Beasty to most folks, which was OK because sometimes I could be a real "beast." LOL! So that's it, in a nutshell, or not. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. |
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"turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... My advice is to develop thicker skin Ahhh... now my heart's gone all mushy. lmao So Bri, I've been in and out for awhile, did you move to Las Vegas? How are things? Christine Nope...not yet. Hopefully we'll be there at the end of August. Now we're just trying to pack and get the house ready to put it on the market. We may even have someone interested in it already....my son's best friend's mother is wanting to get out of her apartment and be a first time home buyer. Our place is in the subdivision she wants, she knows the house, and knows us well enough to know we'll have everything top notch in order to sell it...so (fingers crossed) she's looking to make sure she's got her finances in order to prepare to be a home owner! Things are going okay..just busy. DS passed his test and is being promoted to fourth grade. My husband has some steady work. School is doing much better than I ever thought it would. And...if the weather holds out my husband is going to take me to Key West next week for one last visit before we head west. Key West is our piece of heaven on earth. It's hard to explain...but it holds a special place in our hearts. It was our first big date, and it's always been the place we go when we really need to get our personal lives in order. He took me there a few months after the accident as well...it really boosted my spirits. Something about the sea air and the laid back mood of the island. I love old time Florida. I miss living next to the ocean (raised down the coast from Cape Kennedy....think I Dream of Jeannie houses...I grew up on and near Patrick AFB where the show was filmed). I'm really going to miss my home and this is sorta our last 'hooray' before the big move....... sigh.... how have YOU been? What have you been up to? hugs, *bri Not a damn thing, I've been on vacation and it's nice, but boring. I'm catching up on Y&R, doing some pleasure reading (Outlander series, I bought the new Harry Potter etc) and just plain taking it easy so I can hit the books hard core in the fall. Brian's good, the kids are great, everything is pretty good. One thing that I'm finding complicated is making the transition from online relationship to reality... any advice on that front? lol Christine yeah, keep the online relationship going as well. My hubby and I still do. Of course, not as much...but even though the computers are only about 10 feet away, we still send a lot of emails and are involved with each other's online activities. It took awhile for us to be able to open up face to face as we did email to email....but we did and we're better for it. In fact, when he's upset he is forbidden to WRITE me about it...he has to TELL me.... One day at a time, one step in front of the other, we just clicked at the beginning...we've had some really rough patches, but we realize we've been through a rather difficult year in general. He has a better understanding of how my injury affected (effected?) my personality a bit better and he's learned to work around it. I'm quite ADD now and my emotions still ride on the surface pretty easy....so he's had to adjust to this new me as much as I have. But we're going good (finally!!) oh yeah, make time for just the two of you. Even if it's only for 15 minutes at a time. Just time where you can look at him and each of you know how much you appreciate each other. hugs, *bri Hmmm yeah we should continue the online thing. I think what's difficult for him at times is that I'm not always this funny witty all-that kindof woman... I do laundry, sit and read, I can be pretty boring because hell my life can be hectic, and bloody hell, I'm on vacation! He's in for a rude awakening when Fall Semester hits. lol I mean, I'm purposely trying to take it easy meanwhile he's working (but not supporting us, but I still think he's a tad annoyed because he hasn't actually seen me during the school year where I'm active, goal-orientated, he came here while I was on vacation.) So there's a bit of tension sometimes because I feel guilty about doing nothing (although I do the laundry, cook and take care of the boys etc, so in my books it's not entirely nothing.) But on the otherhand, I know I need the break because I was severly burnt out last semester and I can not let that happen this term. Anyways, we're starting to work things out because it was a difficult transition to make. Sometimes I find he's changed, other times he's my best friend, sometimes I feel we have nothing in common, and other times just him walking in the door makes me smile. Errrrr my life is full of contradictions. lol I think what's difficult for me is that I talked to him for 6 months online and over the phone... we'd talk for hours, he knows me better than anyone so when he got here, it was like a blind date, only it wasn't... and then for about a week or so there was this honeymoon period, and a month later it's like we've been married for 20 years. We seem to have skipped a step, a step I think is vital because although I do know him, realistically I don't. Do you know what I mean? I've talked to friends about this, but they can't really help me because they've never been there. I'm going to give it time so we can both adjust to real life because I do want this to work, I want him in my life... but I'm starting to wonder if I can spend the rest of my life, with this man, in that way. I feel like we're friends, more than anything, and is that enough for me? I don't know. Ahhh sorry guys for the incoherent ramblings. lol I'm just unloading what I feel, ANY advice would be appreciated. Christine |
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"CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "turtledove" wrote in message . com... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... My advice is to develop thicker skin Hmmm yeah we should continue the online thing. I think what's difficult for him at times is that I'm not always this funny witty all-that kindof woman... I do laundry, sit and read, I can be pretty boring because hell my life can be hectic, and bloody hell, I'm on vacation! He's in for a rude awakening when Fall Semester hits. lol I mean, I'm purposely trying to take it easy meanwhile he's working (but not supporting us, but I still think he's a tad annoyed because he hasn't actually seen me during the school year where I'm active, goal-orientated, he came here while I was on vacation.) So there's a bit of tension sometimes because I feel guilty about doing nothing (although I do the laundry, cook and take care of the boys etc, so in my books it's not entirely nothing.) But on the otherhand, I know I need the break because I was severly burnt out last semester and I can not let that happen this term. Anyways, we're starting to work things out because it was a difficult transition to make. Sometimes I find he's changed, other times he's my best friend, sometimes I feel we have nothing in common, and other times just him walking in the door makes me smile. Errrrr my life is full of contradictions. lol I think what's difficult for me is that I talked to him for 6 months online and over the phone... we'd talk for hours, he knows me better than anyone so when he got here, it was like a blind date, only it wasn't... and then for about a week or so there was this honeymoon period, and a month later it's like we've been married for 20 years. We seem to have skipped a step, a step I think is vital because although I do know him, realistically I don't. Do you know what I mean? I've talked to friends about this, but they can't really help me because they've never been there. I'm going to give it time so we can both adjust to real life because I do want this to work, I want him in my life... but I'm starting to wonder if I can spend the rest of my life, with this man, in that way. I feel like we're friends, more than anything, and is that enough for me? I don't know. Ahhh sorry guys for the incoherent ramblings. lol I'm just unloading what I feel, ANY advice would be appreciated. Christine I SOOOOOOOO understand where you are coming from. Friendship is very important. And yes, it does seem as if you 'skip' a step online. I think it's because you do a lot of the mental bonding with no physical bonding....so when the physical bonding comes (and I'm not talking sex, I'm talking everything else) it's almost scary in a way. Emotionally overwhelming at times. So when you run the gamant of emotions that one has with a partner from annoyance or anger to happiness and ecstacy...your highs are higher than expected, and the lows can take your breath away as well....because you didn't bond with him emotionally and physically at the same time.. did that make any sense whatsoever? I think time will tell. Cammy and I dated for over 2 years before we got married. We didn't live together, but we may as well have....we were together 80% of the time. Remember you skipped the dating part of the relationship. You dated online and on the phone, but not face to face. Another thing, I was very much used to being a homebody and I'm extremely independent. Allowing myself to completely fall for someone was extremely hard for me. Once bitten twice shy and all that. Remember to acknowledge the fact that you deserve happiness with someone....Doing that is hard. Allowing yourself to 'let go' with someone is scary...and even after 4 years with him is still scary at times. As single parents we build up many walls that we may not realize. Allow yourself to be happy. Don't be afraid. Enjoy your life. feel free to write me anytime if you want. brianne at alpha66 dot com or pharmchic at hotmail dot com. hugs, *bri |
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