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26-week appointment/birth plan stuff
Well, most of the 26-week appointment went fine. I'm not having
intestinal glitches anymore (for the moment). I survived my glucose test without throwing up, though I won't know the results for a while yet. I got a flu shot, which I'd wanted from the time I found out they were safe during pregnancy -- there's so much stuff you can't take for the flu that I didn't want to have to deal with it this winter. And I got to talk about starting to exercise, which I could badly use -- chronic illness made me a couch potato from *years* before I ever got pregnant, and I don't want to go into labor with no stamina. The downside was that this doctor, who is the one of the trio I like least, decided to go over my birth plan with me and try to talk me out of most of it. :P When I pushed him to the wall on specific issues, he didn't actually have a problem with any of it, he was just being paternalistic and obnoxious, of the "You hired us to take care of you and we're going to act in your best interests, so what do you need all this stuff for?" I kept my cool, kept him to specifics, and argued him down on everything except liquids during labor, which I conceded because he had a medical reason for that and knew it and wasn't going to budge. (IMO it's not a sufficient medical reason, but it's *a* reason.) In particular, he wanted to keep to the hospital policy of one person in the operating room if they have to do a C-section and I was adamant that I wanted my husband and my doula there. I pointed out that I have mental illnesses which are triggered by stress, pain and lack of sleep, and absolutely need someone there whose job is to keep me stable. If I can't bring two people I will bring my doula and leave my husband waiting outside, because I *need* my doula there, but I don't want to keep my husband from watching the birth of his first child, so can they please consider overriding hospital custom in this case? He finally conceded that since it was such a priority for me he'd push the hospital on it, which is the best I think I can do for the moment. I'm seeing the doctor I really like next visit and I'll ask her to push too. Not a bad visit, but left a bad taste in my mouth. Naomi |
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Not a bad visit, but left a bad taste in my mouth.
Naomi Honest question- why are so many women so cynical about doctors and hospitals? |
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Hi Naomi
Good for you for sticking to what you want!! I really don't see a logical reason for not having two people in the theatre with you if you have to have a c-section - especially if one of them is experienced with child birth. All the best Camille |
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Naomi Rivkis wrote:
On 25 Nov 2003 07:30:38 -0800, (Rupert) wrote: Not a bad visit, but left a bad taste in my mouth. Naomi Honest question- why are so many women so cynical about doctors and hospitals? In my case, it's because I've spent a great deal of time with doctors, good, bad and okay, and I am not cynical about them as a whole but I am very much aware that the really good doctors *want* informed patients who take some responsibility for understanding and participating in their own care. I fully second that point of view. Doctors come in many varieties, but they are not gods, should not be treated like them and should not behave like them. When a patient is well informed, it can improve treatments and prevent errors. The same is true for nurses. -- -- I mommy to DS (16m) guardian of DH (32) TTC #2 War doesn't decide who's right, only who's left |
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Naomi Rivkis wrote:
On 25 Nov 2003 07:30:38 -0800, (Rupert) wrote: Not a bad visit, but left a bad taste in my mouth. Naomi Honest question- why are so many women so cynical about doctors and hospitals? In my case, it's because I've spent a great deal of time with doctors, good, bad and okay, and I am not cynical about them as a whole but I am very much aware that the really good doctors *want* informed patients who take some responsibility for understanding and participating in their own care. I fully second that point of view. Doctors come in many varieties, but they are not gods, should not be treated like them and should not behave like them. When a patient is well informed, it can improve treatments and prevent errors. However, from a female POV, my experience with male doctors is that they often underestimate my ability to recognize problems when it comes to my body. I don't go to a doctor unless I *know* something is wrong, and would like to be taken serious. Some try, but some don't and treat me like a complete idiot: 'the bloodwork is fine, so you are fine' is a line I have heard too many times. -- -- I mommy to DS (16m) guardian of DH (32) TTC #2 War doesn't decide who's right, only who's left |
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Rupert wrote:
Honest question- why are so many women so cynical about doctors and hospitals? Experience? For the most part, I don't think anyone believes that doctors don't have their place or that all doctors are bad. It's just that many have had direct or indirect experiences with pregnancy and childbirth where doctors were *not* supportive or did *not* follow evidence based medicine. Add to that many who have had excellent experiences going outside the medical model and it doesn't take a PhD in statistics to figure out why some women are skeptical of the need or advisability of going with the medical model of care for a normal, healthy pregnancy. Best wishes, Ericka |
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I second Erika's response!
Jenn -WAHM -DS Feb'02 -DD Feb'97 -Jellybean due June 25/04~planning a homebirth |
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"Naomi Rivkis" wrote in message
... The downside was that this doctor, who is the one of the trio I like least, decided to go over my birth plan with me and try to talk me out of most of it. :P Not a bad visit, but left a bad taste in my mouth. I know exactly what you mean. It's disturbing to have to argue with any doctor, but particularly one who's involved in a pregnancy. Do you think there's any possibility of finding caregivers whose normal practices are more in line with what you want? I saw a practice of four OBs during my first pregnancy, and the one I liked least, the only one who argued with me about my birth plan, was of course the one who ended up on call at the hospital when I gave birth. She wasn't very supportive (directed the nurse to start preparations for an epidural, when I hadn't even asked for one!), and handled my pushing phase especially badly, IMO, making me stay in lithotomy position after I clearly requested more than once to change position, and rushing things when they didn't need to be, causing an unnecessarily large tear. I felt that this doctor was on autopilot and did not care about my individual wishes at all. For my second pregnancy I saw a midwife and gave birth in a birth center, and it took me about half the pregnancy to (mostly) get over my nervousness and fear of losing control. I was still a little tense and wary, on some level, during my second labor though. About two hours after he was born, it suddenly hit me that I was *done*, it was all over, and no one had done anything to me that I hadn't wanted. The relief and amazement I felt upon realizing that shows that I was worried because of the loss of trust I experienced the first time. Worry is not a good thing during labor. Don't settle for a doctor that leaves a bad taste in your mouth, if you have any options at all. If you don't have options, I don't mean to scare you. At least your doctor was willing to negotiate, which my original doctor didn't really do. When I said during a prenatal visit that I didn't want pain medications, she just kept telling me over and over "you don't know what your labor's going to be like". I should have left that practice then, but I guess I was too timid, and just hoped I'd get one of the other three. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 7 mo. And Jaden, 2 months Cleaning the house while your children are small is like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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