Sarah Vaughan wrote:
beyond the pale wrote:
This person really wants to throw me a little shower again, it would
be the same people as last time. It's been just over 4 years. I am
debating if it's rude to "turn down" a shower, and I am debating if
it's rude to let her throw the shower but have her somehow let people
know that we saved everything and will only need some basics and
mostly diapers and wipes. I don't want to dictate my shower, you know?

It's not a choice between having a shower or having nothing. Seems to
me it would be perfectly reasonable to say to her "That's so kind of
you! I don't feel it would be appropriate to have a *shower* again,
since these people brought me gifts for my last shower, but why don't we
have a celebration party for the baby? I would love you to host that."

Sorry, just to clarify - I meant you could ask for a celebration party
before the baby's born (basically, a shower without the expectation of
gift-giving). Of course, as Ericka pointed out, there are loads of
options if you do want the party to be after the baby's born. I was
just thinking that it might be nice to have it before the birth, when
you're likely to feel more up to entertaining.


All the best,

Sarah
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