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Most High School Athletic Coaches are Jerks
My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least
30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. And this leads me into my current rant. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. Why are coaches such jerks? |
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Most High School Athletic Coaches are Jerks
wrote in message oups.com... My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least 30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! My kids have played soccer and baseball. At this age in both sports, all kids were supposed to get ample play time. The baseball league actually has rules that state that all kids must get roughly the same amount of playing time, and that every child has to have at least one inning in the infield, though they tend to put the worst players in as catcher. As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. And this leads me into my current rant. This is part of your problem -- apparently your kid is good. The more elite the teams are, the more committment and skill the coahes expect. It's generally the case that the more laid back coaches are not he ones winning championships. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. Why are coaches such jerks? This is a tough one. By the time you get to high school, athletics becomes much more serious. People are going for scholarships -- it really does take a lot of time and devotion to play at that level. Sometimes you can find "recreation leagues" in your area where the level of play, and therefore the time commitment, isn't as intense. I understand your frustration, but I also understand the coach's point. What message does it send to the other players who are there for every practice if your son gets special treatment? Bizby |
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"bizby40" wrote in message . .. My kids have played soccer and baseball. At this age in both sports, all kids were supposed to get ample play time. The baseball league actually has rules that state that all kids must get roughly the same amount of playing time, and that every child has to have at least one inning in the infield, though they tend to put the worst players in as catcher. Oops -- wanted to clarify -- catcher does of course become a much more vital position later on -- it's only in the youngest ages that they do this. Bizby |
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Most High School Athletic Coaches are Jerks
wrote in message oups.com... My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least 30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. After reading this far, I am thinking that you are the jerk, not the coaches. If they are so horrible, why didn't you start coaching the teams? High school and middle school coaches rarely get paid enough to make up for the time that they give coaching. And most recreation leagues use only volunteers. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! Oh geez. Get a clue, man. As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. And this leads me into my current rant. Actually, I think that the fact your a jerk leads you into the current rant. If you want to win a game, you have practice, practice, practice. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. Well, the coach made it absolutely clear what was required of your son to play on the team. Your son didn't do that. The kids who came to practice on Saturdays got rewarded. Why are coaches such jerks? My original comment that you are the jerk proved to be correct. The coach said exactly what the rules were. And he stuck to it. Good job coach. Jeff |
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On Apr 11, 11:14 am, wrote:
My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least 30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. Wow. You must have had either really bad luck or you set your bar higher than most. My boys are only 9 and 11, but they've played on a fair number of teams already and I don't think I've ever had one that I would call a jerk. There have been a few that really didn't know the sport they were coaching, but they were at least trying. We've had one coach that focused too much on winning for my taste, but I still wouldn't call him names. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! For any league my boys have been in up to this point, this has not been an issue for us. Any league we've been a part of has specific rules regarding equal playing time for every kid. As you get more competitive, those rules disappear, but I think that's the point of having competitive teams. There, the focus *should* be on playing the best players and trying to get the W. If that's not your style, then you stay in the recreational leagues. As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. When I was in high school, there were never Saturday practices. It seems to be much more common now and this is the one place that I do agree with you. It's over the top. My nephews have been in high school sports and I've been amazed at the days that they have practice. Not just Saturdays, but Thanksgiving morning and the day after, Christmas Eve, etc. Sure, they call them "optional" as a way to deflect any complaints, but the kids that show up are the ones that get the playing time. When my boys get to be that age, I'm sure they are going to hate me when I tell them that I will not allow them to practice on family holidays. And this leads me into my current rant. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. I think for school sponsored sports, you'll get much further working with the school board or the athletic director (if you have one) to set policies than you will trying to convince any single coach to make an exception. If you think that practice is 6 days a week is too much, then get together with some like-minded parents and try to lobby for a policy change. However, I do agree with Jeff that if that's the rule communicated at the beginning of the season, you have no right to complain now. Your only hope is to try to get it changed for the following year. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. OK, I do agree that playing someone in 10 second increments is a rather childish way for the coach to try to prove his point. I have to imagine that there were other players that couldn't make it on Saturdays as well. Did they get the same treatment or was this the coach's way of getting back at your son for complaining about it? My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. It's too bad it had to come to this, but again, your son knew the expectations up front. Annie |
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Most High School Athletic Coaches are Jerks
Most coaches and I've encountered have been wonderful. They don't get any
extra pay for the all the extra effort and then they have to put up with the parents. I am extremely nice to all my son's coaches for all their hard work. wrote in message oups.com... My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least 30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. And this leads me into my current rant. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. Why are coaches such jerks? |
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annie wrote: On Apr 11, 11:14 am, wrote: As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. When I was in high school, there were never Saturday practices. It seems to be much more common now and this is the one place that I do agree with you. It's over the top. My nephews have been in high school sports and I've been amazed at the days that they have practice. Not just Saturdays, but Thanksgiving morning and the day after, Christmas Eve, etc. Sure, they call them "optional" as a way to deflect any complaints, but the kids that show up are the ones that get the playing time. When my boys get to be that age, I'm sure they are going to hate me when I tell them that I will not allow them to practice on family holidays. I think it's going the other way. When I was in high school, we started track practice one week after cross-country ended. We practiced during the winter break (although it was called the Christmas break back then:-), and we were expected to do a long run one day on the weekend from September to May. I've still got my high school track logs that show that I worked out on Christmas Eve. My coach griped about my going away for spring break one year, even though I was going on a bike trip and would be doing aerobic exercise several hours a day. (And, I had to walk to school five miles barefoot in the snow, uphill -- both ways. :-) Nowadays, track practice starts in mid-January (although a few of the dedicated kids get out there at the beginning of winter quarter -- they're not allowed to be coached, however). Plus, the kids do a lot less mileage than we did in the '70s (granted, high mileage was the fad back then). I coached high school track all through the '90s and had to put up with most of the kids missing practice and meets for play rehersals, music lessons (or concerts), Model UN trips, college visits, etc. etc. etc. I think the kids are missing out on something by not doing their chosen activities whole-heartedly. High school is one of the last times in their life that they'll have the freedom to put all their effort into one thing. If a kid doesn't want to commit to practice and competitions that are on the schedule, there are plenty of recreational leagues around. Just my $0.02. |
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On Apr 11, 1:14 pm, wrote:
My son is 17 and has played numerous different sports and had at least 30 different coaches over the years that he has played sports, starting at age 4. Through all these coaches, I would say that there were only 4 or 5 that weren't absolute jerks. These coaches think they are GOD. When the kids are really young, they look up to and even, in some cases, idolize their coaches; and I always found it really sad when a coach tells a parent who asks why their 7 year old is always sitting on the bench that "they have to earn their time out there". Give me a break. No, he doesn't have to earn his time out there, I'm paying for him to play!! As my son got older and moved into Varsity Sports, these coaches were even worse. In Varsity sports, you have to practice every day except Sunday. God help the kid who has anything else in his life except for that sport. And this leads me into my current rant. My son was playing varsity lacrosse and told the coach at the beginning of the season that he couldn't practice on Saturdays beause he has to work. The coach was definitely not happy about this and said that my son shouldn't have to work, he's only in high school. He also told him that he wouldn't get much playing time if he didn't come to EVERY practice. My son went to practice every day after school but didn't go on Saturdays. As a result, the coach would let him play about a total of ONE minute (in 10 second increments) during each game. My son ended up quitting the team. I felt really bad about it because this was a kid who absolutely LOVED playing lacrosse, had played it since 7th grade, was captain of the team last year, and just wanted to have fun playing his last season as a Senior. Why are coaches such jerks? Some are jerks. Some are not. Kinda like the human race in general. My daughter swims. Her coaches in both middle school and high school have been great. The coaches work the kids hard, but that goes with the territory. The middle school team was a 'no-cut' team (anyone who wanted to swim could swim) and everyone competed. In high school she was on the JV team this year. She didn't compete as much, but everyone got a chance in the pool, and she absolutely loved it. (She was unsure at first about going out for the team. She'd been swimming on the city team for a couple of years and enjoys it, but she was concerned about the extra competativeness of the school team -- where the *team* is what matters, not your personal best. [She tries hard, but is not a great swimmer.] But everyone was great. The coaches were great. Her teammates were supportive and encouraging, even the top varsity kids. As for the time committment, again, that goes with the territory. She had practice 6 days a week during the season (plus a couple of meets most weeks), but 'the season' only lasted 3 months. Excused absences (illness, holidays, family committments) weren't a problem, but if you skipped practices without a reason, you didn't compete at the next meet. Still, when all is said and done, competative sports at that level are a choice. If you want to compete, you have to put in the time. If you aren't willing to put in the time, you do something else. Naomi |
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On Apr 11, 4:05 pm, "Jeff" wrote:
If they are so horrible, why didn't you start coaching the teams? High school and middle school coaches rarely get paid enough to make up for the time that they give coaching. Yeah, yeah, the poor put-upon martyrs. What you really mean is these washed-up jocks don't have the brains or talent to do anything else. The OP is correct. The majority of coaches fall within a common range - middle of the road IQ types who might have otherwise ended up being cops - another group of no-loads who like to bitch about how underpaid they are. Coaches make a living on the misguided notion of the over- valuation of sports. How many pricks have gotten a walk for doing things anyone else would have been in jail for if they weren't a college athlete? If Babe Ruth hadn't been a ballplayer, he'd have been known around town as just another obnoxious, womanizing alcoholic asshole. Any number of clowns in sports seem to have extreme punkass tendencies. If anything, college/pro team sports fosters mindless factionalism - the us -vs- them mentality. People say they're a die-hard fan of a particular team, generally because of an accident of geography. Yay "us". Yeah, some of them do photo-op good works. You think they really give a **** about their idiot fans? The world of college and pro sports is a scam. |
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"Spob" wrote in message ups.com... On Apr 11, 4:05 pm, "Jeff" wrote: If they are so horrible, why didn't you start coaching the teams? High school and middle school coaches rarely get paid enough to make up for the time that they give coaching. Yeah, yeah, the poor put-upon martyrs. What you really mean is these washed-up jocks don't have the brains or talent to do anything else. Gee, you have an attittude problem. What I mean is that these people choose to spend their time coaching and mentoring young men and women for some money, but not a lot. That's for high school and middle school sports. In recreation leagues, most coaches are not paid. The OP is correct. The majority of coaches fall within a common range - middle of the road IQ types who might have otherwise ended up being cops - another group of no-loads who like to bitch about how underpaid they are. I don't see anyone saying coaches are underpaid. Most high-school and middle-school coaches are teachers in the schools. So they already get a regular salary. Coaches make a living on the misguided notion of the over- valuation of sports. Sports is an important part of the development of many students. How many pricks have gotten a walk for doing things anyone else would have been in jail for if they weren't a college athlete? This has what to do with the quality of high-school coaching? If Babe Ruth hadn't been a ballplayer, he'd have been known around town as just another obnoxious, womanizing alcoholic asshole. Like you? He would not have been known at all. Any number of clowns in sports seem to have extreme punkass tendencies. So what? This has nothing to do with guiding young men and women in high-school sports or kids in rec leagues. If anything, college/pro team sports fosters mindless factionalism - the us -vs- them mentality. People say they're a die-hard fan of a particular team, generally because of an accident of geography. Yay "us". Yeah, some of them do photo-op good works. You think they really give a **** about their idiot fans? The world of college and pro sports is a scam. It's fund raising for colleges. But, what does this have to do with coaches in rec leagues, middle- and high-school? Jeff |
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