If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
It's a comin' lil 'o', r r r rr
http://caymannetnews.com/2006/01/1005/letter3.shtml
LETTER TO THE EDITOR Muddying the waters on spanking Wednesday, January 11, 2006 Dear Sir, I host a website, http://www.nopaddle.com/ about school corporal punishment as physical abuse, sexual abuse, and sexual harassment. Many of those issues are also common to home "spanking." Ms. Rose, in her recent commentary, "The Issue of Spanking," recently tried to "clear up confusion." Well intentioned as she may have been, however, I'm afraid she only further muddied the waters. It is almost comical, if not so sad in its effect, the way just about everyone who supports "spanking" has such a wide variety of "lines" that if you cross them, spanking becomes abuse. In her case if you don't spank with a paddle or some other societally approved object long after the event with a cool, calm demeanor, then it becomes abuse. You can easily find many other spankers who think it should always be immediately done, done only with the hand, etc., or else then it becomes abuse. We now know for a fact that hitting children for discipline, with any implement or lack of it, is never necessary. Every study has shown buttocks hitting to be somewhat neutral at best in mild clothed cases with young children, and harmful at worst in just about every other scenario. Millions of people worldwide, in some cases entire countries and religions, are now almost entirely spank-free, with superior results in academics, crime rates, etc. Historically "CP" has been applied to adults as well as children, and its history is a far cry from the illustrious "good tradition" that proponents commonly espouse. In the Old Testament slaves could be legally beaten to death, as long as the death occurred the following day, and the slave owner merely lost his property (Exodus 21:20-21). Beating of adults and children was common in this primitive society, and in this context King Solomon, and he alone, recommended Old Testament Jews beat their children as the adults themselves were subject to. Solomon was not a prophet, and no Old Testament prophet, i.e., someone who claimed to speak for God, ever claimed hitting children to be a revelation from God. If we did want to follow the "Old Testament," however, we also need to beat adults and slaves, and we also need to offer animal sacrifices, and stone to death anyone who does any amount of work from Sundown Friday to sundown Saturday (Numbers 15:32-36, etc.). The New Testament that Christians claim to follow does not have one verse that instructs a parent to hit a child, or for anyone to hit anyone. There is no Christian rationale for hitting, and no scientific one either. European descendants and the people's affected by colonization and "christianization" around the globe were indeed left again with seemingly "biblical tradition" of the buttocks beating of the young that Ms. Rose referred to many times as the prime reason to continue "spanking, but that "tradition" has no basis whatsoever in Christianity. Religious buttocks beating to cure sin or for control or exploitation actually has its roots in the human propensity for dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, learning the lessons of brutality from pagan Rome, from 700 years of European tortures of "heretics" during the Inquisition to "relieve them of sin," and through 350 years of slavery in North America where the vaunted "paddle" Ms. Rose mentioned was invented as a tool of physical and sexual/sadistic abuse and exploitation of slaves that did not reduce their market value as much as the lash. We should correct children in ways that do not involve violence or violation, however mild or severe that may seem to the hitter. Very often such temporary "cures" actually plant thorns of hidden dissociation disorders and sexual dysfunctions that strongly harm the children for life, and the parents seldom know. "Discipline" means to make a disciple. Children learn far more by what we do than by what we say. If we model non-violence in solving problems, they will learn non-violence, even if it takes a little longer or seems a littler harder to us at the time. If we respect their sexual regions, they will likewise give and demand that same sexual respect from others. There is no reason to hit any child, and every reason not to. Jeffrey L. Charles Roseville, MI |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
Updates and Commentary -- toljah it was comin' boys. Dance. | [email protected] | Spanking | 3 | December 18th 05 08:13 PM |
Updates and Commentary -- toljah it was comin' boys. Dance. | [email protected] | Foster Parents | 1 | December 13th 05 11:05 PM |
DCF's scandals keep a comin'...... | Fern5827 | Foster Parents | 0 | July 30th 04 08:52 PM |
AAARRRRGGGHHH!!!!! Long hubby vent comin' up! | *Hunee* | Pregnancy | 8 | September 16th 03 09:30 PM |