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Old September 22nd 04, 10:22 PM
Marie
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Default Scared about tomorrow.

I keep telling myself I'm being paranoid, but it's not helping.

My boys will be 17mos old tomorrow: subtract 9 weeks for their prematurity
and they're still 15mos. But they're not talking: at all. And I can't
tell how much they understand either. They scream, grunt and babble in full
sentences, but no words.

Back in June, when they were at a neo-natal follow-up, the pediatrician
pegged them at 14mos (their actual age) for their motor skills, 12mos (their
corrected age) as far as social skills and problem-solving went, and at
about 10mos for communication skills. At the time, he emphasized the "do
not worry" approach, saying that we should get on the waiting list for a
speech pathology assessment, but the problem would "...almost certainly..."
clear itself up.

So tomorrow they go for hearing tests, and next month we're likely to get a
call from the speech pathologist for an appointment. And I haven't noticed
any change in their comunication since June.

I want to know what's going on, but I don't want to know there is something
wrong with my babies. Does that make sense?

Marie
Chris and Alex--born 04/23/03 at 31wks gestational :-)



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Old September 22nd 04, 11:12 PM
Megan Byrne
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Marie,
My twins were born at 33 w 3d and will be 2 on Tues. They still do not
talk "real" words that much. They "talk" constantly to each other in
their own language. They understand EVERYTHING we say, but only say a
handful of words we understand. I am not worried. I hear twins talk
later b/c of the "twin language" thing. We are involved in an assesment
program, too, but they are so backed up, they won't get their 24 mo.
assesment until Jan. I wouldn't wory so much, but let us know how they
do.

Megan~
Mommy to wonder twins
Aidan & Alexis....the countdown to 2 is on!


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Old September 23rd 04, 01:59 AM
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Kathleen talked well before 2 and Chris not until 3!!!He did understand
everything but verbalized almost next to nothing. Yes, he ended up getting
early intervention, eventually 2 years of speech pathology until 3rd grade
and now only has a slight "accent" but certainly will talk your ear off if
you let him.

I won't say don't worry but do seek out help and get an assessment. But
don't panic.

Good luck
Shirley
Chris and Kathleen 1/95

"Megan Byrne" wrote in message
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Marie,
My twins were born at 33 w 3d and will be 2 on Tues. They still do not
talk "real" words that much. They "talk" constantly to each other in
their own language. They understand EVERYTHING we say, but only say a
handful of words we understand. I am not worried. I hear twins talk
later b/c of the "twin language" thing. We are involved in an assesment
program, too, but they are so backed up, they won't get their 24 mo.
assesment until Jan. I wouldn't wory so much, but let us know how they
do.

Megan~
Mommy to wonder twins
Aidan & Alexis....the countdown to 2 is on!




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Old September 23rd 04, 04:31 AM
Ellen Kmetz
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Marie,

My boys were not even close to talking at 15-17 mos, and they were full-term.
We had some conerns about Alex for his first two years, and he was a "student"
of Early Intervention until he was almost 3. Are you in the states and if so,
have you looked into the program?

The bottom line is that it's much too early to know whether or not there is
anything wrong, especially if you haven't had any tests done yet. I know it's
our natural tendency as mothers to worry, but please try not to. I will say
that if I went back to when Alex was 15 mos., I would have been convinced that
he would be delayed forever. He was way behind in gross and fine motor, but
especially in speech. The Early Intervention specialists were a huge help in
showing *me* how to help *him*. They are now almost four and he is completely
caught up and has been for over a year.

Good luck and please write if you have any other questions.

Ellen
--------
Erin 6/26/95
Bradley & Alex 10/5/00

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Old September 23rd 04, 08:33 PM
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Marie ) wrote:

My boys will be 17mos old tomorrow: subtract 9 weeks for their prematurity
and they're still 15mos. But they're not talking: at all. And I can't
tell how much they understand either. They scream, grunt and babble in full
sentences, but no words.


My son had no words at all at that age, I am pretty sure. He did make lots of
different kinds of noises, he understood things we said, and his hearing
appeared to be good. By his second birthday he had about 35 words, a bit short
of the 50 or 60 they like to see as a milestone, and a few weeks later had a
verbal spurt, went past 50 words and started putting two words together on
occasion. He did eventually get evaluated at about three and was found to be
delayed in expressive speech, but not enough for intervention.

Given your kids' prematurity and all, I think it is a good idea to be more
proactive about getting them seen early, but don't stress too much -- the
evaluation was fun for my son, and I'm sure speech therapy would have been too,
if he'd needed it. It's also still VERY possible that they're just not early
talkers. The fact that they babble so much is a very good sign, as far as I
know.

--Helen
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Old September 24th 04, 02:49 PM
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my girls were born at 37w 2d but neither talked before 2. alix did
everything first (except grow teeth!) she walked, talked, was born
with a pincher grasp i swear! callie always tested 6 months, or more,
behind her sister. i was always afraid what would happen academically
between the two. at 4 1/2 callie is an outstanding athlete (her
teacher's words) and writes way more words than her sister. callie
has been going to speech therapy for a couple years and will start up
again in a week or so. i think it is too early to worry about your
sons. but it is natural to worry of course.

pam
alix and callie 3/24/00

I keep telling myself I'm being paranoid, but it's not helping.

My boys will be 17mos old tomorrow: subtract 9 weeks for their prematurity
and they're still 15mos. But they're not talking: at all. And I can't
tell how much they understand either. They scream, grunt and babble in full
sentences, but no words.

Back in June, when they were at a neo-natal follow-up, the pediatrician
pegged them at 14mos (their actual age) for their motor skills, 12mos (their
corrected age) as far as social skills and problem-solving went, and at
about 10mos for communication skills. At the time, he emphasized the "do
not worry" approach, saying that we should get on the waiting list for a
speech pathology assessment, but the problem would "...almost certainly..."
clear itself up.

So tomorrow they go for hearing tests, and next month we're likely to get a
call from the speech pathologist for an appointment. And I haven't noticed
any change in their comunication since June.

I want to know what's going on, but I don't want to know there is something
wrong with my babies. Does that make sense?

Marie
Chris and Alex--born 04/23/03 at 31wks gestational :-)



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Old September 24th 04, 06:31 PM
Jack H.
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"Marie" wrote in message
ble.rogers.com...
I keep telling myself I'm being paranoid, but it's not helping.

My boys will be 17mos old tomorrow: subtract 9 weeks for their

prematurity
and they're still 15mos. But they're not talking: at all. And I can't
tell how much they understand either. They scream, grunt and babble in

full
sentences, but no words.


15 months is very early to be worrying about them speaking. Talk to them a
lot, it helps!
I found it was really hard to sit and talk with the kids, there was always
an interruption and my energy for the kids was always not at it's peak due
to the constant demand of twins.
I worried a lot about Abigail but she is doing ok.


Back in June, when they were at a neo-natal follow-up, the pediatrician
pegged them at 14mos (their actual age) for their motor skills, 12mos

(their
corrected age) as far as social skills and problem-solving went, and at
about 10mos for communication skills. At the time, he emphasized the "do
not worry" approach, saying that we should get on the waiting list for a
speech pathology assessment, but the problem would "...almost

certainly..."
clear itself up.

So tomorrow they go for hearing tests, and next month we're likely to get

a
call from the speech pathologist for an appointment. And I haven't

noticed
any change in their comunication since June.

I want to know what's going on, but I don't want to know there is

something
wrong with my babies. Does that make sense?

Marie
Chris and Alex--born 04/23/03 at 31wks gestational :-)




Good luck with the tests.
How did they turn out.
Jack


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Old September 25th 04, 12:49 AM
Marie
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After all the stress, the test was almost a let down: kid sits in my lap,
an ear piece (much like an old transistor radio ear plug) is put in the ear
and 30 seconds later the test is done. Once more in the other ear,
lather-rinse-repeat with second kid, and we were in and out in less than 20
minutes.

So Chris passed in his left ear easily. His right ear was getting a
"referral," ie an indication that a more sophisticated test is needed, until
the ear piece was removed and brought a huge wad of wax with it ;-) The
audiologist put a clean earpiece in and retested and he passed with flying
colours. Alex passed in both ears, too.

So now when they ignore me, I know it's not because they aren't hearing:
they may not be listening or comprehending, but they are hearing.

Now we just wait for their names to reach the top of the speech pathology
waiting list.

Marie


"Megan Byrne" wrote in message
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Marie,
My twins were born at 33 w 3d and will be 2 on Tues. They still do not
talk "real" words that much. They "talk" constantly to each other in
their own language. They understand EVERYTHING we say, but only say a
handful of words we understand. I am not worried. I hear twins talk
later b/c of the "twin language" thing. We are involved in an assesment
program, too, but they are so backed up, they won't get their 24 mo.
assesment until Jan. I wouldn't wory so much, but let us know how they
do.

Megan~
Mommy to wonder twins
Aidan & Alexis....the countdown to 2 is on!




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Old September 25th 04, 04:57 AM
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Just wanted to add that Einstein didn't speak until he was 5. At that
time, his parents were told he had serious mental defects and to never
expect much from him. Guess those docs were wrong

Kids speak at their own pace, and it just takes a while sometimes. I
agree 15 months seems pretty early.

Let us know how things go

-Karen
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Old September 26th 04, 01:32 AM
m.ackerman
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One of the things that our speech pathologist said when Chris was 2.5 was
that children develop only one really hard skill at a time. Boys tend to
work on "physical" things more than verbal. Chris at 3 was doing things a
4.5 year old boy might do, skills, climbing, taking risks etc. So she
surmised that he was more interested and developing more physical skills
than verbal. She was so right.

Shirley

"Karen" wrote in message
om...
Just wanted to add that Einstein didn't speak until he was 5. At that
time, his parents were told he had serious mental defects and to never
expect much from him. Guess those docs were wrong

Kids speak at their own pace, and it just takes a while sometimes. I
agree 15 months seems pretty early.

Let us know how things go

-Karen



 




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